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trans2007-09-19 09:05 pm
superdus.livejournal.com) wrote in trans2007-09-19 09:05 pm
Having your cake and eating it???
I've been thinking a lot about my own gender stuff recently... I'm 33 years old and very happily married to a bisexual lady who loves the fact that I am trans. When we got married, we had a church wedding where I married her as my male self (Rick), and a Pagan handfasting, where I married her as my female self (Ruth).
On the gender spectrum, I guess I'd be somewhere between TV and TS; the best description I've found so far is "bi-gendered". In an ideal world, I'd live as Ruth full-time; in reality that is not realistic, as it's a lot easier being Rick for work.
In terms of changes I've made to my body to become more feminine, so far, I've had some electrolysis done on my face (back in 2000), and I get waxed and get my eyelashes and brows tinted every month.
I know I'm not TS in the sense of wanting to lose my penis though; I don't have a "hatred" of it (like the majority of TS's would), and enjoy intercourse using it. Neither would I want to take female hormones that would affect my sex drive in this area.
However, I've recently found myself wanting to make my body more female, particularly with regards to my breasts. I would love to have implants, although I would need to be conservative in terms of the size of implant I went for, so it would still be possible for me to pass as male for work. I am also considering having micropigmentation (tattooing) of my areolae to make them larger and more prominent. My wife says she likes the idea of me having implants, although is totally happy with the way I am already, so does not mind either way.
So I was wondering if that would be a realistic option, and how a cosmetic surgeon would assess me, given that I do not plan to fully transition, nor to seek full gender reassignment.
I've also been wondering if there was any way of legally having both a male name and a female one, rather than doing a deed poll or statutory declaration to change my name from Rick to Ruth outright. I would much rather have use of both names, depending on the role I choose to be in at the time. Someone once mentioned that it was possible to have a "legal alias", but I've never heard of this since.
I guess that society is still geared for there being only two genders, and you have to fit into one or the other, not sit in the middle, switch between at will, or have aspects of both?
On the gender spectrum, I guess I'd be somewhere between TV and TS; the best description I've found so far is "bi-gendered". In an ideal world, I'd live as Ruth full-time; in reality that is not realistic, as it's a lot easier being Rick for work.
In terms of changes I've made to my body to become more feminine, so far, I've had some electrolysis done on my face (back in 2000), and I get waxed and get my eyelashes and brows tinted every month.
I know I'm not TS in the sense of wanting to lose my penis though; I don't have a "hatred" of it (like the majority of TS's would), and enjoy intercourse using it. Neither would I want to take female hormones that would affect my sex drive in this area.
However, I've recently found myself wanting to make my body more female, particularly with regards to my breasts. I would love to have implants, although I would need to be conservative in terms of the size of implant I went for, so it would still be possible for me to pass as male for work. I am also considering having micropigmentation (tattooing) of my areolae to make them larger and more prominent. My wife says she likes the idea of me having implants, although is totally happy with the way I am already, so does not mind either way.
So I was wondering if that would be a realistic option, and how a cosmetic surgeon would assess me, given that I do not plan to fully transition, nor to seek full gender reassignment.
I've also been wondering if there was any way of legally having both a male name and a female one, rather than doing a deed poll or statutory declaration to change my name from Rick to Ruth outright. I would much rather have use of both names, depending on the role I choose to be in at the time. Someone once mentioned that it was possible to have a "legal alias", but I've never heard of this since.
I guess that society is still geared for there being only two genders, and you have to fit into one or the other, not sit in the middle, switch between at will, or have aspects of both?