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trans2008-01-12 09:35 am
the4thcircle.livejournal.com) wrote in trans2008-01-12 09:35 am
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So I was at a wedding reception last night and generally chatting to people about various topics. It was the first time since my transition started proper that I'd been in a big family oriented occasion.
I don't really go to family events with my own family at the moment because my parents have insisted that before seeing anyone I have to inform them all suitably about what to expect, and I'm still working on a good way to do that.
On the flipside of this, my newly wed friends had told me the exact opposite, that anyone who knew would know, and no one else had to, particularly not the bride's father, who was very religious and a bit funny about alternative lifestyles... which was fine.
Any scenario in which I only have to be myself and not dredge up the past is 100% hunky dory with me.
... But then there was Sandy.
Sandy is, since you probably won't know him, possibly the most socially inept person it is possible to meet. He's the sort of man whom, if he were to ever actually find a woman willing to date him, would take her clothes shopping and tell her all the different ways in which each item of clothing made her look fat.
That's the kind of ineptitude we're dealing with here.
So I'm sitting on the sofa's with my partner Rebecca, and he leans over and says "I don't want to offend anyone but I just find it so wierd that you two are together. I mean it's just wierd. I mean it's even wierder because he -I mean she- used to be a he. You know? I mean I just that it's wierd. Really really wierd."
As much as I wanted to kick up a fuss, this was a good friends wedding and not the place to cause a scene similarly however the guy was so inept at social interation that I wondered if he had some kind of autistic spectrum disorder, and that's the point of this post (I know it took a while to get here).
If a person has really bad aspergers or just general inability to deal with people, should they be expected to be as respectful as you would hope everyone else is? Or is it the sort of thing I should just accept and let go because they'll just never get it?
I don't really go to family events with my own family at the moment because my parents have insisted that before seeing anyone I have to inform them all suitably about what to expect, and I'm still working on a good way to do that.
On the flipside of this, my newly wed friends had told me the exact opposite, that anyone who knew would know, and no one else had to, particularly not the bride's father, who was very religious and a bit funny about alternative lifestyles... which was fine.
Any scenario in which I only have to be myself and not dredge up the past is 100% hunky dory with me.
... But then there was Sandy.
Sandy is, since you probably won't know him, possibly the most socially inept person it is possible to meet. He's the sort of man whom, if he were to ever actually find a woman willing to date him, would take her clothes shopping and tell her all the different ways in which each item of clothing made her look fat.
That's the kind of ineptitude we're dealing with here.
So I'm sitting on the sofa's with my partner Rebecca, and he leans over and says "I don't want to offend anyone but I just find it so wierd that you two are together. I mean it's just wierd. I mean it's even wierder because he -I mean she- used to be a he. You know? I mean I just that it's wierd. Really really wierd."
As much as I wanted to kick up a fuss, this was a good friends wedding and not the place to cause a scene similarly however the guy was so inept at social interation that I wondered if he had some kind of autistic spectrum disorder, and that's the point of this post (I know it took a while to get here).
If a person has really bad aspergers or just general inability to deal with people, should they be expected to be as respectful as you would hope everyone else is? Or is it the sort of thing I should just accept and let go because they'll just never get it?