trans | Therapist & Hysto questions

Hi,

I’m wondering if anyone can recommend a therapist in either Fredericksburg, VA or near Alexandria, VA who has experience with genderqueer/transgender patients and is queer-positive/affirmative. I’m currently seeing someone who is good for dealing with some other things I have going on (more ‘mainstream’ stuff like family problems) but I feel like she just doesn’t ‘get’ the gender stuff. I don’t know if this is because it’s only been a few sessions, but I just get the feeling that she isn’t going to understand it anytime soon and it’s making me incredibly frustrated and I feel like I waste my time & money (and energy) bringing this subject up with her. So I’d like to find someone who specializes more/is more familiar with gender issues.

I’m also interested in learning more about partial/subtotal hysterectomy or endometrial ablation. I pretty much have my mind & heart made up that I want either procedure (leaning more toward the hysto as I’ve read that ablations at my age (19) might not work too well & have to be repeated). The two main questions I have are 1. how much do these procedures generally cost – with insurance and without; and 2. is there any way I could get a therapist to say that the procedure would benefit my mental health as a way of getting an insurance company to cover at least part of a hysto? Would an insurance company buy that or do I need to have an actual ‘medical’ condition like endometriosis or something? (What if I was diagnosed with PMDD?)

Thanks for any & all help.

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