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trans2008-02-17 09:08 pm
electrokinetic.livejournal.com) wrote in trans2008-02-17 09:08 pm
new member
I just joined and figured I should introduce myself. My name is Jess, and I'm not transgendered, but my "significant other" is (FTM). We both turn seventeen soon, but I didn't join transyouth because I consider myself a bit more mature than most other teenagers. (Eg., I'm mature enough to sit down and examine myself and realize that I'm pansexual and that gender honestly doesn't matter to me, rather than simply glancing at myself and quickly deciding that I'm bisexual because I happen to be attracted to both sexes.)
I joined this community because there is less than no support system where we live, outside of our immediate circle of friends, all of whom are supportive and several of whom are gay, but none of whom besides my guy (Jack) are trans. I could just
Jack just came out to his parents about three weeks ago, but he hasn't told them yet about wanting a sex change. Baby steps. Anyway, they took it ASTONISHINGLY well, to the point that we're about to start believing that life has decided not to screw us over anymore. I guess the only thing I'm consistently worried about now that things have decided to go right is what to call our relationship. It doesn't seem that important in the grand scheme of things, but think about it-- how are we to introduce each other? "This is Jack, my...um..." We're young, I know, so I doubt many people are going to believe we're really as in love as we are. But because of the magnitude of this love, words like boyfriend and girlfriend are too inadequate, and although we do plan to get married eventually, the word "partner" has always made me want to vomit because it's so impersonal. This question keeps itching at my mind, no matter how I try to distract myself. Any suggestions?
I joined this community because there is less than no support system where we live, outside of our immediate circle of friends, all of whom are supportive and several of whom are gay, but none of whom besides my guy (Jack) are trans. I could just
Jack just came out to his parents about three weeks ago, but he hasn't told them yet about wanting a sex change. Baby steps. Anyway, they took it ASTONISHINGLY well, to the point that we're about to start believing that life has decided not to screw us over anymore. I guess the only thing I'm consistently worried about now that things have decided to go right is what to call our relationship. It doesn't seem that important in the grand scheme of things, but think about it-- how are we to introduce each other? "This is Jack, my...um..." We're young, I know, so I doubt many people are going to believe we're really as in love as we are. But because of the magnitude of this love, words like boyfriend and girlfriend are too inadequate, and although we do plan to get married eventually, the word "partner" has always made me want to vomit because it's so impersonal. This question keeps itching at my mind, no matter how I try to distract myself. Any suggestions?