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My spouse ( MtF) and I have 2 children. One is 12 and one is almost 5, they both know about Daddy and are comfortable with all Daddy being a girl is to them. One small problem as of late. The 5 year old is having some major gender identifying problems. As in she has problems telling if someone is a girl or a boy. For most of us in this community and such this would be great a child with no preconcieved notions...problem is that school and such requires that you see a picture and be able to say boy or girl. Anyone else have this problem? Any possible helpers or solutions?? Thanks