Because this situation has just come up for me...

[snakey]

What's the most useful advice you can think of to give someone who knows they want to transition, but is terrified?

What do you wish someone had said to you?

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[snugglebitch]

I'm in this situation a lot, and usually I just talk really down to earth realistically with them about what I've been through. I mean, I've lost a lot in all this, but I've gained a lot too (with my particular story, it helps to let them know I come from a rather extreme background). In a lot of ways, as awesome and radical and huge as transition might seem from the outside, in the day-to-day it's really slow and mundane and life just goes on. You still get up, and eat a few meals, and go to school or to work, and watch tv or read books or go to the park. It is going to be different, but in a lot of ways, and a lot of days, it's going to be very much the same.

Also, depending on how "out" they are, I find it helps to remind them of all they've done so far. That, yeah, starting physical (or even social) transition is a huge step, but look at the huge steps you've already taken. Even if the only thing they've done is talk to me about it, that's huge. I didn't even have the courage to do that; my girlfriend had to ask me about it before I really said anything to her, so taking that first step, definitely commendation worthy.