trans | Just a little WTF rant

Some friend of mine told me the other day "Kali, you could never really be a guy." Why? A couple of reasons made sense: you're too pretty, too petite, and your hands (apparetly are girly, which I can understand). But then there's some bullshit about how I don't think like a guy.

So here's the question: How does a guy think? Saying all guys think about is sex and cars is like saying all girls think about is boys and makeup. And I don't think either is true, although sometimes it seems like it, in which case I say screw gender identity I'm moving to India to be a sexless third-gender.

But seriously, am I less "manly" because I'd rather cook than fix a car? Because I do my own laundry more than once a month? Because I have some semblance of personal hygene? Because I can spell?

I'm sorry but the guys I hang out with like to brush their teeth and watch Annie every once in awhile. Are they not men then?

And is gender identity really so caught up in sexuality? If so, why doesn't every gay man dress in drag? Why do some lesbians wear makeup? I guess thats why the word "transgender" is more popular. Because honestly, I'm not interested in sex. I'd be happy as a guy as much all alone in my room as I would be in a crowd of girls or guys.

And anyway, if I "can't be a guy" why do I have to be a girl? I can be a snail if I want! *packs for India*

I feel better now.