I've been thinking about a lot.
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transAnd frankly, I don't even know where to start.
If I come across as ignorant, there is really no excuse for it except to say that I'm trying to get all of my thoughts out and sometimes I lack the notion to re-read things and word it so that it appeals to everyone. You can't please everyone though, right? Anyway, so with that said, here goes.
I'm seriously considering taking hormones because I feel very strongly that I am a male in a female body.
For those of you who have transitioned, or have recently started transition (or those considering it, who have already worked out a dating plan)-
Do you tell people once you meet them, "Oh, by the way, I'm a man (or woman) but I'm transgendered so I may be different in some areas."
I mean, I hate hate hate labels but labels are everywhere and you can't escape them.
I know that there are people out there who will like you because of who you are, boy or girl, transgender or not.
But every once in a while, you will meet someone who expects you to be a natural-born man or woman.
How do you handle that?
To put it rather bluntly, and excuse me, do you strictly limit yourself to transgender groups?
That way, the people you date aren't taken back when they find out you look like a man but you don't have 100% the body of a man? Or look like a woman and don't 100% have the body of a woman? (Meaning, it wasn't the body you were given at birth.)
I personally do not want to have bottom surgery and that is one reason why I am bringing this up.
I often wonder what it would be like if I met someone who assumed I was 100% male (physically) and then they find that I don't have a penis. A dildo could work, but that doesn't sit well with some people.
So, any thoughts or suggestions as to how to deal with the rejection of some individuals?
I will always hold my head up and take comfort in the fact that there ARE some people out there who will like me for who I am, but I'm expecting, the way society is today, that some people will be taken back by it.
Also--- when you date someone and you really like them, at what point do you tell them you were born a different gender (if you do)? And how do you tell them?
If I come across as ignorant, there is really no excuse for it except to say that I'm trying to get all of my thoughts out and sometimes I lack the notion to re-read things and word it so that it appeals to everyone. You can't please everyone though, right? Anyway, so with that said, here goes.
I'm seriously considering taking hormones because I feel very strongly that I am a male in a female body.
For those of you who have transitioned, or have recently started transition (or those considering it, who have already worked out a dating plan)-
Do you tell people once you meet them, "Oh, by the way, I'm a man (or woman) but I'm transgendered so I may be different in some areas."
I mean, I hate hate hate labels but labels are everywhere and you can't escape them.
I know that there are people out there who will like you because of who you are, boy or girl, transgender or not.
But every once in a while, you will meet someone who expects you to be a natural-born man or woman.
How do you handle that?
To put it rather bluntly, and excuse me, do you strictly limit yourself to transgender groups?
That way, the people you date aren't taken back when they find out you look like a man but you don't have 100% the body of a man? Or look like a woman and don't 100% have the body of a woman? (Meaning, it wasn't the body you were given at birth.)
I personally do not want to have bottom surgery and that is one reason why I am bringing this up.
I often wonder what it would be like if I met someone who assumed I was 100% male (physically) and then they find that I don't have a penis. A dildo could work, but that doesn't sit well with some people.
So, any thoughts or suggestions as to how to deal with the rejection of some individuals?
I will always hold my head up and take comfort in the fact that there ARE some people out there who will like me for who I am, but I'm expecting, the way society is today, that some people will be taken back by it.
Also--- when you date someone and you really like them, at what point do you tell them you were born a different gender (if you do)? And how do you tell them?