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likethewatch.livejournal.com

This comes as a surprise to many, both within and outside of the trans community. Two trans men who've had pregnancies, post-transition, are fighting for their rights to access to reproductive health care, and to maintain their legal genders in the process. My latest article for The Good Men Project, "The Reproductive Rights of Trans Men,"

lilywolfsolomon.livejournal.com

Hi everyone.

So, I started HRT (MTF) about six weeks ago. After about a month, thanks to a friend's recommendation, I realized I could bank sperm for a lot cheaper than I thought it would be. At that point I temporarily stopped with the spiro, in case my short time on HRT had reduced my count. I kept taking the estrogen. I'm expecting to bank my sperm early next week. I don't know if it's the effect of estrogen alone or what but in that time I've noticed my hair falling out like crazy. It's possible that it's the initial fallout before it regrows, but I don't know what's going on. Since hair loss was an issue a year ago before I started on finasteride, I'm sort of freaking out.

For psychological peace of mind, I really wanted to start on spiro again. I took it again today for the first time and I don't want to stop. So what I'm wondering is... can I safely go back on spiro now if I'm planning on banking my sperm very, very soon? Has anyone tried banking sperm at some point after starting HRT, or gotten a sperm count at some point after starting HRT? Spiro doesn't lower sperm count so immediately, does it? I know everyone's starting count is different... but will going back on spiro for several days significantly affect my sample? Thanks for your input!

dubaco.livejournal.com

In Sweden just now there is a kind of war on going against the government, Its a right wing coalition and a small section is blocking the change of a law, that in it's day was a step forward, however is now outdated. The law in Sweden DEMANDS all trans* people destroy genetic material in Sweden (so trans* people cant have kids) and have a surgical procedure to ensure sterility just to get one digit changed from a odd number to an even one... (like a National Identification Number or National Insurance number yyyymmdd****) The number signifies the legal gender of a person.

I was at a protest a while ago and thought you may like to hear about it, and the campaign

Warren's Speech against the inhumane and illegal laws on forced sterilisation in Sweden was rather amazing, i have a LOT of respect for him.. This video is not safe for work however the text is. - Juts in case people may be offended or accidentally click on it, I have opted to put the link behind a LJ Cut.

Also there is a petition that you may wish to sign should you choose to do so. and a link to a Facebook protest in London.

If you choose to sign the petition Thank You.

( Read more... )

Current Location: Sweden, Stockholm

casey-coyote.livejournal.com

Hello,

Does anyone have experience with stopping hormone treatments (as an assigned male) in order to regain fertility? I am wondering roughly how long I would have to have stopped taking anti-androgens or estrogen in order for testing to accurately determine whether or not I am able to have children. I have been taking spironolactone for 4 months, minus a week break.

I've read, though I am unsure if this is medically sound, that as little as 6 months of hormone therapy may be enough to make someone with male reproductive organs permanently sterile. My doctor didn't seem to think it was a concern so it may be more.

Also, did anyone find their opinion radically changed on the issue of children? I do not want children, and think that should I ever change my mind I would much prefer to adopt. However, I can't help worry that I may change my mind entirely.

And does anyone know roughly how much banking sperm costs per month/year in the UK?

elizabeth1010.livejournal.com

So banking the 'ol squigglies has become a more pressing issue now that I should be starting hormones in the coming months. However, in order to properly store my sperm, I can't be on hormones right? Ok, assuming that, it means I'll have to put off the 'mones until I can save up about $1500+, not an easy feat on 8.50 and hour and 16 hours a week. My question is, with the expense of I.V. fertilization, how often do people actually go through with it? I know only I can decide if it's worth it to me, but considering how expensive a proposition it is, I'm wondering if it will even be possible financially. So, I guess I'm curious to hear about anyone's experiences with in-vitro and storing sperms and stuff.

a-dub37.livejournal.com

haha TiffanyTourette is my girlfriend... i made a live journal for all of you that said i should. Im super confused. i just want to know who or what i am.. i dont want a dick but i dotn want my tits. im more relaxed when ppl think im a guy but always worried they will find out im a girl. altho someday ima be a mommy or daddy and niether sound right...

jamie-patrick.livejournal.com

Does anyone have any information on the adoption process? I know it varies from state to state. .... I'm from New Hampshire and I am trying to adopt my girlfriends son but I just wanted to know what kinds of ID is required.... basically I'm wondering if I can slip by the radar with my gender. I pass 100% of the time, so I am wondering if they will even catch on.... ?

knightvision.livejournal.com

Well hi there.

I have been wondering about this for a little bit now. I've been engaged for almost three years (with a plan to marry once my fiancee and I are financially stable enough), and it seems these days that the subject of being prospective parents has been showing up. Very frequently. Like an annoying neighbor with no other friends.

We're not doing this any time soon, of course. She's closing in on twenty-two and I'll be twenty-five in January. We'd rather like to dedicate our twenties to enjoying one another, finding our feet, enjoying one another even more through marriage, and further stabilizing my transition. And, you know, working to bring home all means of pig meat. No, babies will be more seriously discussed and planned upon once we've both successfully hurdled over thirty.

It is out of SHEER PRODDING CURIOSITY that I poke around and see if anyone is more knowledgeable than I am.

What are some of the options that folks such as myself are presented with as far as being a parent? I'm FTM, and almost two years into hormone therapy, so I am going to go right ahead and assume that all of those fun fertility functions down there are pretty much done for at this rate. Soooo egg transplant to get the best of both parents (from me to her) is probably not going to happen. And for the record, the very idea of being impregnated skeezes the living hell out of me. No, no way, out of the question, never.

I've heard that adoption is phenomenally rough. Prodding into personal life, possibly being rejected due to gender identity? Is that really the case, or am I reading into rubbish?

There really is no way at all to get a little bit of both of us into one baby, is there? Been hearing rumours about something involving DNA transfers but that seems awful unlikely to me, at least for the next ten to twenty years.

Honestly, I'm not pulling the ignorance card here - I'm just curious. Either way, I'd love to be a father in the future. I've come here a few times with some legit questions and you guys and gals are always willing to jump right in and offer what you know. So what do you know?

Ta in advance. :)

- Connor

Current Mood: kills the cat, ayup.

nihilistvlad.livejournal.com

Hey, I'm new to this community...

I've just been told by my son's father (we split up before my son was born but he plays a pretty big part in my son's life, my son is 2 and a half) that he is considering a sex change. It's not a huge surprise to me as he's always been that way inclined but it is a shock to the system and I wonder how it will affect my son, my son's relationship with him and my own relationship with him. I have a boyfriend who will probably take on the role of "dad" if this does go ahead, (I kind of feel like my territory of being "mum" is being somewhat threatened, will his parenting style and inclinations change? Are they hormone based?) Is it fair whilst not to dock any of his rights as a parent to bestow on him the title of aunty or some such? We are all a pretty liberal lot and pretty accepting (c'est la vie, right?) but I'm really shocked and just need to know.. how will things change? how will this affect us? how will it affect my 2 year old son growing up knowing that his "aunty" is really his dad?

Cheers!

tara1985.livejournal.com

thought id copy this post from my profile and see what peoples thoughts were...

Transexual pregnancies.....!

Hmmm who else has heard about Dr Brassard's ideas for Transexual pregnancy viability and that it is medically pysically possible doesnt sound too complicated the procedure he suggested and simply an ethical question..... havent heard about this before until now! God i hate damn ethics always seems to be against positive things! any thoughts people???

carly-kai.livejournal.com

My ex and I were trying to figure out what our kids are going to be encouraged to address me as. She's Mom and we agree that's her title.

Help.

Carly

Current Mood: thoughtful

pandagenma.livejournal.com

A girlfriend of mine recently told me about a girlfriend of hers (mtf) who had been on hormones for three years, stopped taking hormones for a couple months, and then was able to have a child (I assume with the help of a fertility doctor). I know I have seen at least one post on here before from another pre/non-op mtf that had succeeded in getting her cisgendered partner pregnant after being on HRT for a while.

My question: how many mtf's here have been able to reproduce post-hrt without sperm banking? If you have, how did you do it? Were there birth defects or complications?

I never ever thought I would want children pre-hrt, and then about a year in maternal instinct kicked in. Damned biological clock.

Current Mood: sleepy

belleza-mia.livejournal.com

Hey yall.

Is it possible/easy for transpeople to adopt children in California? I know basically everyone is transphobic, so is the adoption/foster care system shady like that? Please let me know what you know.

x-posted to

mtf

terry-terrible.livejournal.com

Hello everyone,

I plan to be starting hormones sometime this spring. Since I can't afford banking my sperm and hormones at the same time, I’m planning to adopt if I decide to have kids.

But I'm kind of worried about getting denied that based upon my trans status. There are three state that been gay and lesbian couples from adopting (UT, MI and Miss) and one forbidding gays and lesbians from adopting period (FL).

Given the fact that I'm trans and likely to end up in a non-hetero-normative relationship, that would be two-strikes against me. I've been able to find no specific law against trans adoption though a bill came up in Ohio that specifically (along with Gay and Lesbian) precluded Transfolk from adopting but as far as I know wasn't passed. In North Dakota agencies can deny people on "religious considerations" (a de facto ban).

I've heard of plenty of people planning to adopt, but I've never heard of a trans person ever doing it. The ones I know and heard of having kids had them before they transitioned, through artificial fertilization with a (genetic) female partner or through a surrogate.

Does anyone know a transperson who has actually adopted a child post-transition?

Thanks.

Courtney

Cross posted to:

mtf

boy-pastiche.livejournal.com

Hopefully this will not be unwelcome, as I am more closely identified as queer. I just needed someplace to talk.

I have been more and more frustrated with the gender thing. I GET TIRED OF PEOPLE DESCRIBING ME AS IF I WERE CIS. ARGH.

As a parent, my child has always called me by a gender-based parental nickname (as most children do). That has been making me more and more uncomfortable.

Today, I asked the kid to call me by my name instead, because it was the only manageable thing I could come up with. I explained that I would always love my puddin', and always be a parent, but i didn't want to be called that name anymore.

It's gone well so far, but i can't help feeling guilty. Was this the wrong decision to make? i just feel so caught between what society wants of me and what i feel i am...

Current Mood: restless

crimsonwolf82.livejournal.com

Does anyone here or does anyone here know of an FTM(pre-op of course) who had a child the natural way and then successfully transitioned or has started transition? Being male and being a parent are two things I've always wanted since a very young age. I was just wondering about adjustments. And also childcare during surgery recoop. And general feelings while pregnant, during birth, and after. If there's a website or a blog that would be super cool.

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Transgender Community

Transgender people have reproductive rights

Spiro and sperm banking

Swedish Sterilisation law

Fertility?

mental meanderings on sperm storage and usage

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So. Parenting.

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Transexual Pregnancies!

The kids will call me...

Reproduction.

adoption

Trans Adoption......

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