*deep breath, sigh*
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transHopefully this will not be unwelcome, as I am more closely identified as queer. I just needed someplace to talk.
I have been more and more frustrated with the gender thing. I GET TIRED OF PEOPLE DESCRIBING ME AS IF I WERE CIS. ARGH.
As a parent, my child has always called me by a gender-based parental nickname (as most children do). That has been making me more and more uncomfortable.
Today, I asked the kid to call me by my name instead, because it was the only manageable thing I could come up with. I explained that I would always love my puddin', and always be a parent, but i didn't want to be called that name anymore.
It's gone well so far, but i can't help feeling guilty. Was this the wrong decision to make? i just feel so caught between what society wants of me and what i feel i am...
I have been more and more frustrated with the gender thing. I GET TIRED OF PEOPLE DESCRIBING ME AS IF I WERE CIS. ARGH.
As a parent, my child has always called me by a gender-based parental nickname (as most children do). That has been making me more and more uncomfortable.
Today, I asked the kid to call me by my name instead, because it was the only manageable thing I could come up with. I explained that I would always love my puddin', and always be a parent, but i didn't want to be called that name anymore.
It's gone well so far, but i can't help feeling guilty. Was this the wrong decision to make? i just feel so caught between what society wants of me and what i feel i am...
