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nikoru-chan.livejournal.com

Hey transgender LJ friends!! I am doing a project for one of my graduate summer classes about being transgender in the workplace! More specifically, about being outed at work. I need to do an interview, either in person (I am in MA) or over Skype/video chat. Project is due Aug 8, so interviews would be before then. If you are interested, or have any questions please comment or drop me a message!

EDIT: I should also specify that everything will be anonymous :)

aazhie.livejournal.com

I am wondering if anyone in the USA has tried testosterone pellets? Someone at the clinic I get my shots at said they didn't know if one could get them done in the States. I looked around online and there's FDA info about them and nothing that says they are NOT approved??? I'm not in a huge rush to try them, BUT I do think that these would be the best option for me, regardless of cost, provided I don't have a massive reaction to the dang things. Do you have to find a specific kind of Doctor to implant them? I live in the middle of nowhere in Norther Cali, but I travel to Sacramento regularly and wouldn't mind needing to travel a couple times a year for treatment.

Also, I wanted to know about birth certificates. If you change your BC, are you required to inform your employers? I'm not out and work and have no immediate plans to be, so it isn't like it's a rush, I'm just curious how many hoops I need to plan on jumping through. :/

kshea333.livejournal.com

Hi all,

I'm new to this community but I've posted before in genderqueer and other LGBTQ journals here before, so I apologize if the beginning part of this post sounds similar. I'm a female-bodied queer person who doesn't really identify with either gender, or rather fluctuates between feeling like a man and feeling like a woman. While my dress reflects this identity fluidity, regardless of what I'm wearing or acting I still have a very femme face, a high-pitched voice, and a "feminine" shape, so it's hard to pass as butch or androgynous when I want to appear that way. Anyway, I've been playing with the idea of using a more gender-neutral name for the last couple years, and this last week or so I've had a really strong feeling of wanting one. Yet I was surprised at how scared I got once this started becoming a reality...

( more behind the cut )

eatthosediapers.livejournal.com

Hey TGLJ!

I work for a worker owned company in San Francisco of about 240 workers. A small group of us are trying to develope a proposal for our company to include transgender healthcare as part of our benefits. Our HR department is really good about supporting trans workers access to hormones etc., but does anyone have experience bringing a company into a more complete system of care for trans folks?

Our company has a good track record of trans support (we have several trans people on staff who are well respected) but we are trying to:

-figure out the logistics: Should we basically ask the company to pay out of pocket for things like SRS, orchiectomy, or should we try to appeal to our insurance company?
-Pre-empt discussions about what to include: what's a good way to approach procedures that are seen as "cosmetic" like breast enlargement or FFS?

Again, our company tends to be pretty trans-positive, but I slightly dread conversations about this stuff with cis people. Any info or feedback would be great.

Thanks!
~c

skittlewolf.livejournal.com

1) I am looking into getting health insurance and starting T since I recently moved to Mass. I was looking into Ferry since she is only an hour away. The is an issue though, she doesn't take MassHealth but she does take BMC. Problem is...I don't think I can get BMC where I live (01247). I see a person tomorrow to help me get all started so they will probably be able to help more but anything you guys can add before then would be extremely helpful. I don't want to have to drive 3 hours to Fenway since it seems they are not only a lot FARTHER but a lot more complicated to go through. I am an hour or so away from Northampton so anyone in that area would be perfectly acceptable. I don't want to wait a long time either...

2) Disclosing for jobs. Obviously, I'm not on T, pre-name change, etc. I am currently looking for jobs but, do you suggest disclosing AFTER you are employed or before?

3) Online schools. I'm looking into starting classes online however because I have no legal name change, all my classes will have my legal name for discussion boards and all. That means, even if I ask people to call me Lucian, 99% of the time they will still use my birth name. It's creating a lot of fear and dysphoria for me. Any suggestions?

x-posted to ftm

Current Mood: anxious

fullcontactmuse.livejournal.com

For those of you two transitioned while on the job, at what stage in your transition did you inform your employer and, in hind sight, how did that go for you? Did it work for you or do you wish you would have done it earlier or later?

Thanks!

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sunshine-hate.livejournal.com

To those who have done it, what are your experiences job hunting before a legal name change?

I've been putting my legal/birth name where requested but preferred name when available. My resumé also displays my preferred name.

jackcantdie.livejournal.com

Hi all,

The people that I deal with at work know that I'm trans. The people that I don't deal with don't know, they assume that I am a guy which is great, 'cause I am. However, when I started working there, this one lady was working in HR. (In recent months, she's been demoted to something else.) But when I started, I decided to come out to her beforehand so that I could work out the bathroom situation among other things and she was wonderfully supportive. However, she continually slips. That's not a problem for me (because most of the time, it's when we're alone). I know that she's trying her hardest.

My problem, oddly enough, is with HOW apologetic she is afterwards. When she slips up, she won't notice it until a while later. She will approach me (privately) and say something like, "I wanted to tell you... I apologize very much for the other day, when I, you know, said the wrong thing. I felt horrible. I'm sorry. I think of you as one of us, you're just Luke... the nicest person." Meanwhile, I had forgotten about the incident and shrugged it off, until it was brought up again. If i kept track of how many times the above has happened, I would be all out of fingers and counting with my toes.

If any of you have dealt with a similar situation, when someone goes overboard with the apology and almost appears to be kissing up to you, how do you handle it? Do you just take their compliments and apology in stride, or do you say something about it?

Just wondering.

ETA: She doesn't work below me. I work below her. So it doesn't make sense that she would 'kiss up to me'. She really is the nicest person, too, but sometimes her apologies are too dramatic that I almost feel like it's an insult. I mean, while the reassurance is nice, that she considers me to be a nice person, and equal to all the other people I work with, I almost feel insulted that she may think I don't consider myself such, because of my trans-status, and I need to be told so?

I could just be getting paranoid, is all...

windfox87.livejournal.com

Hey all, a question for my experience sisters and brothers.

So my situations is this: I'm early 20's, 6 months in on hormones & being full time, completely out in my school and church, haven't done any name or gender change paper work even though I'm permanently listed by my use name on the class rosters and almost never say my birth name out loud, still working on some stuff like restroom use in very public spaces like malls, and a second year seminary student.

My problem/question is this: I will be starting to apply for internships -I need to do a summer deal as a hospital chaplain intern, CPE for anyone who knows the lingo- here as soon as things calm down -like 2 weeks at most-, I know for sure that me being Trans will be a non-issue or at least no big deal in most of the places I'm applying - I asked a professor teaching a class I'm in on chaplaincy who works as a career hospital chaplain & that's basically what he said- and that a few places have had Trans interns in the recent past. Since I know things will be ok how do fill out the forms, I figure there will be a section for preferred name, but what about gender and how I do use the application to give the hospital a heads up that I'm going to be there looking different than the legal 'M' on the application would lead them to expect.

So the concise question is how do I work with a job/internship application to be honest about my gender and what I'm doing with that so that I start as myself while still being open about my situation.

I'm going to be asking my professor, but I think this community would have a better idea & actual experience in this general sort of things, I'd ask some other students but as far as i know there's no one close enough in perspective to offer advice -every other transperson on campus is decently older & has much more general career experience-, so I really appreciate this community here and the resource it provides.

trailrat.livejournal.com

Right then, lets start of with some basic information that may be helpful in your advice!

I'm MtF and I live in the UK (England). I'm also seeing the local gender clinic about getting hormones. I think I'm right in saying I have no solid status as female, nothing legal! A close shave still leaves me with a grey chin.

Now, the thing is I don't feel right without wearing the breastforms. I pretty much wear them all the time with one or two exceptions, like when I go to my parents or when I'm sleeping!!

In February I started work after being out of work for two years. I love this job. Now the problem is I work in a school kitchen and whilst contact is brief, I do come in contact with the kids. I didn't wear them for my first "term"!

I want to start wearing them to work but I can't wear make-up, especially the kind of make-up to make me feel passable.

I work as a relief for my local council which means I could be working any of the 60 primary schools in my local area. I worked in one school until the end of term and they know about my life decision. They were cool about it too. They even want to meet me all "dolled up"!! But I can't rely on being in just the one school!

I need to find a way to approach this as tactfully as I can with the actual council! Just showing up with boobs one day seems to lack tact to me!

So yeah, help. Please.

halfbloodme.livejournal.com

I work as a teaching assistant at a primary school and today was our last day before the holidays. When out on the extra long playtime after assembly, one of the kids in year 3 came up to me and gave me a hug, nothing unusual there until said kid and their sister who is in year 5 started having a conversation.

Sister: I like that Miss Emery is a girl, she's very huggy.
Me in thought: I'm not a girl but we won't go into that now.
Kid: Why do you say Miss Emery is a girl. She could be a boy like me.
Me in thought: Not a boy either but thank you.
Sister: You're a GIRL. Your name is Caitlin*.
Kid: No I'm a boy.
Sister: Mum says you're a girl, you have the same bits I do, you're a girl. Yeah you're a tomboy, but you're a girl.
Kid: Dad calls me Charlie and I like Charlie better. I'm NOT a girl.
Sister: Mum says Dad is an idiot for agreeing to call you Charlie*.
Kid: When I turn 11 I'm moving in with Dad.
Me: Come on now kids, lets try and enjoy the last day of the school year and not argue.
Sister: Miss, will you tell Caitlin she's a girl?
Me (whilst trying to remain neutral and not cause a full scale riot when the kids are picked up and their mother finds out I'm not going to force their child to conform to a gender or sex): It's not up to me. Caitlin or Charlie, whichever you prefer is what I'll call you.
Kid: Yay thank you Miss.
Sister: I think adults are weird.

(*names changed to protect identities in line with the data protection act)

Working in school (whilst my ideal job), is very cisexual and cisgender biased, I've yet to find a gender neutral title that the kids can use and that won't out me to parents and cause a riot, although I'm working on it. I've so far learned how to deal with questions of boyfriends (I am attracted to women), how to deal with questions on why I won't wear dresses and got my hair cut short and why I don't dress like a girl or like a boy but a mixture. Now it's a case of learning how to deal with situations like the above and stay neutral whilst carefully avoiding fitting into the hetronormative and the sexual and gender normative positions most of our parents and the other staff take. This year has been a real learning curve.

alinonymous.livejournal.com

hey,
I'm Ali; i'm an eighteen year old preeverything mtf computer science/computer engineering student at university.
while I do have issues with the residence hall that cause me to think that i won't transition socially until i no longer live in it, this post isn't about that. I have a contact in the admissions department (she used to be residence hall director) that would help me with issues pertaining to that.

what this post about is the internet filtering at my uni. residence hall net is reasonably unfettered (as it should be) whereas wireless in the academic buildings is rather filtered. it seems like the filter is doing dumb keyword filtering on "transgender" and "transsexual" which filters many actual support / lgbt community sites while letting some bad ones through.

anyway I could email uni IT about it but I dont want to possibly out myself by emailing from my uni email and I don't know if helpdesk@$UNI honors requests from non-uni accounts which is how I would avoid associating my trans identity with my identity as a student.

What should i do?

ali

ETA: It would be trivial enough for me to bypass the filtering - I just VPN out of uni network - but I am opposed to censorware blocking the free exchange of information and i realise not everyone at uni is as technically proficient as I am. When they research transgender topics then the sites are blocked is not a good thing.

harpsi-fizz.livejournal.com

I need some advice/imput pretty badly. Any of your thoughts, ideas, or advice would be good, regardless of if you've lived this situation or if you never even thought of it.

I'm moving to Chicago as soon as I can (latest will be October) and am looking for work as a nanny. What I've got going for me are two college degrees, certifications in childcare, CPR and First Aid certification, and I genuinely care.

What I've got working against me- I'm only 22 and I'm an FtM.

I only pass about half the time; I really don't look that threatening. Without trying to spark another round of the Oppression Olympics, in the world of childcare, females have the definite advantage. In New Orleans, one place wouldn't hire me because "we don't hire males, for obvious reasons". I don't know 100% what he meant by that (just a vague idea), but he just kept saying "for obvious reasons" and I didn't like what he was implying.

I couldn't present as female at work because it'd really distract me from my job. Ideally I'd be hired by allied parents, parents with a GLBT child, or a GLBT couple, of course, but sometimes I'm not too optimistic about that.

No questions this time- just wanting you to throw anything in, any thoughts at all, please.

espreite.livejournal.com

I'm planning to volunteer at a local historical society this summer, and I'd really like to present as male while doing so. The application for volunteering has both a spot for legal name and name preferred for name-tags and records, but my preferred name is not obviously male. Should I disclose my trans status at the time of applying, or wait to see how they react to my application first? Or is this a bad idea and I should just present as female? I pass iffily - people believe me if I'm explicitly introduced as male, but they tend not to peg me as such otherwise, though I suspect that will get better after I get a haircut. Any thoughts/suggestions/advice would be wonderful.

zoeyprncs.livejournal.com

This goes to any trans who have had a legal name change. Once you have all your ducks in a row with your new name do you ever use it again? As an example in applications for jobs and related forms they ask for any aliases which I assume my birth name does apply. Torn between leaving behind my male past, and not wanting to commit fraud, what do others do facing this situation?

P.S. Yesterday was the last day I had to use my old name registered at my college. The same day I was asked to fill out a form that required that same name. When I found out I felt crushed... I can't explain it but I bawled my eyes out looking at this form for 30 min unable to bring myself to place my old name on it. I eventually did but I never understood why that hit me so hard. Today I had the college changed to my new legal name.

prtyldy.livejournal.com

I am posting this hoping for some advice for myself (cis female) and my trans girlfriend (who does not have a livejournal account).

She has been unemployed for 6 months now. She was fired from her job of 7 years for pretty lame reasons. I might mention that she was fired just a few months after informing them of her intentions to transition, but really that is irrelevant at this point. She has been on HRT for almost 2 years now, and her body has become undeniably female. As she is thin, her significant breast growth is difficult to cover. While she has very male facial features, our original plan was to have some FFS type stuff done last March, and then she would change her name and "go full time" (though the only thing missing from full time before was the new name and pronouns). Unfortunately, the loss of her job threw off our FFS plans (-$).

So now we are at a point where she does not pass as female due to her face (I know that passing is not possible for everyone, but it is her ultimate goal), and does not easily pass as male due to her breasts, and she needs to find employment. With the economy as it is, the type of job she is looking for is rare enough, and not strictly speaking the sort of job you would expect to get hired at as an obvious trans person (dont tear my head off here, I am trying to be realistic), especially when there are many qualified people applying for them. To further complicate things, the lack of social stresses she encounters being home and unemployed have given her the courage to insist on the use of feminine pronouns and her new name from our friends and relatives. This is not a bad thing (duh!), but it does mean that she is, for the first time in her life, in a situation where she gets to be herself openly, all the time. She does not want to go back, and though I cant blame her, we are still trying to afford FFS and badly need a second income to do so.

I guess I would like any advice anyone could give here. She is still legally male, and therefor must apply to jobs with her male name. Should she pretend to be male to get a job for the time being? Is it worth the mental anguish to have a better chance at passing later on? What about her voicemail? Right now her message says her female name, but potential employers will think they have a wrong number!

The whole situation is putting a tremendous strain on our relationship, and while we have come to terms with the fact that there is no easy solution, I keep hoping there is something I have missed. Help if you can!

Thanks,

-H

nyxpiper.livejournal.com

so... im currently going into college, and i want to start transition...
my fiance says that ill never be able to get a professional job if i start
its not that he is transphobic, just the opposite he is ftm im mtf

maybelaterlouis.livejournal.com

Cross-posted from

ftm_youth.

Anyways, hi. I'm Louis, male-identified, and sixteen. I've had this question on my mind since I last applied for a job (unsuccessfully). Although my parents don't try to sabotage my transition, they do not support me-- so I have not had a legal name change, and will be unable to get one until I'm eighteen. How do I bring this up to potential employers? On my last application, I put down my birth name with my male name in parentheses, then explained the situation in brief to the employer during my interview. Is this the best way to go about it, or would it be possible to put down my male name and only explain the situation if I get hired? Or should I only put down my birth name? Does it make a difference if the application states the company will not discriminate based on gender identity?

Thanks.

didianebedeau.livejournal.com

I have a question regarding coming out in a very small work environment. The situation is this:

I’m FTM trans-identified and plan to start hormones sometime within the next few months. My job circumstances are a little different than some, in that I’m not working in close contact with a boss or co-workers. I teach music at 2 small studios and have very little interaction with the store owners and co-workers—I say hello when I come in, pay a studio fee before I leave, and that’s about it.

I currently pass *none* and suspect it will take several months on hormones before I even reach the grey area. At this point, how others address me is a non-issue—I am keeping my first name, which is unisex, and I really don’t care what pronouns they use.
Given both the non-passing and the limited interaction with others at the studio, I’ve debated whether to say anything at all.

However, my contact with students—about half of whom are young children—*is* close, and at some point, the physical changes such as voice drop will be obvious and questions are bound to come up. To speak to each student in advance seems to be going overboard, but to say nothing at all could lead to an awkward, confrontational situation later on.

I want to take whatever precautions I can to make this go as smoothly as possible, but I also don’t want to create an unnecessarily awkward, uncomfortable environment for the students.

Any suggestions are appreciated.

peaceofpie.livejournal.com

I'm currently working through AmeriCorps with a nonprofit HIV/AIDS service agency. When I came on board here I found that the staff was VERY enthusiastic about receiving training in order to better serve transgender clients, and are very receptive to making changes in policy which will make our agency more inclusive. Since my primary role here is in volunteer coordination, one of the first steps I am taking is evaluating ways that we can make our volunteer program more accessible to people who want to volunteer regardless of gender.

One of the concerns which has come up is the background check process. Our current policy is to require a background check for anyone who volunteers on-site more than one time. There are volunteer opportunities available for those who do not provide information for a background check, but these are all one-time-only volunteer jobs. It seems to me that this would exclude people from volunteering who did not want to out themselves.

We discussed this at our last volunteer coordination team meeting, and the team is very interested in finding a solution. The team gets that it's different for us to require a background check than it is for a paid employer to require a background check, because we're trying to get people to volunteer for us, not offering them employment in exchange for their personal information; so someone who might be willing to disclose information for a paid employer would be less likely to do so. We have the utmost respect for confidentiality here, of course, but we are also mindful that just because an agency says we respect confidentiality does not mean someone will share personal information anyway.

So -- as a staff member at this agency, and also as a transgender person who likes to volunteer -- I am interested to hear both from people who work or have worked at agencies which background-check volunteers, and from people who volunteer, about what solutions there might be to this issue. Any ideas or thoughts you may have are greatly welcome!

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