MtF sounding voice? O.o

[leonhunter.livejournal.com]

I originally posted this in my personal page, but I figured it was probably best to be raised in a community chat where people might actually look at it. heh

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I was talking in a tinychat earlier with some people from the site called trapchan, all of which were MtFs except myself and some cis guy. For a while I did not have the balls (haha) to turn on my webcam, since I don't exactly look the most masculine since I still have a fairly feminine hairstyle and such, but after a while I decided I would sort of stuff my hair back into the hood on my hoodie and see how things went.

So some time went on and we talked about various things, and I was told by a trans woman in the channel that if she had not been told of my FtM status that she would have just thought I was a guy when I had my hood on (not so much when I let out the hair I guess heh), which I thought was pretty awesome since I have not made any permanent steps towards looking like a guy yet.

Then I decided to turn on the mic so I could say some stuff and see if perhaps my voice sounded a bit masculine (I have lived as a butch lesbian for a while, so I don't exactly sound like a cheerleader haha), and suddenly the aforementioned trans woman jumped on me and said "you're no FtM with that voice." At first I thought she was making fun of me for sounding like such a girl, but then it went in a totally weird direction and she private messaged me in the tinychat and said something about "having her fooled" and that they "would not tell anyone."

Supposedly, my voice tipped her off in some weird direction which made her think I was a trans woman rather than a pre-transition trans man. So I sort of thanked her, since I suppose it was sort of a compliment (depending on how the trans woman sounded), but things were really awkward as she fought me on my identity trying to say that she "had been around a lot of traps in her lifetime" and had me totally figured out, or whatever.

The entire thing was really awkward and alarming, albeit rather humorous. Currently I am not really certain how to take it, since when I asked her what made her think that way, she just kept pressuring me to "drop the act" or whatever. Has anyone else experienced something like this?

When to tell a potential employer about my gender status?

[maybelaterlouis.livejournal.com]

Cross-posted from ftm_youth.

Anyways, hi. I'm Louis, male-identified, and sixteen. I've had this question on my mind since I last applied for a job (unsuccessfully). Although my parents don't try to sabotage my transition, they do not support me-- so I have not had a legal name change, and will be unable to get one until I'm eighteen. How do I bring this up to potential employers? On my last application, I put down my birth name with my male name in parentheses, then explained the situation in brief to the employer during my interview. Is this the best way to go about it, or would it be possible to put down my male name and only explain the situation if I get hired? Or should I only put down my birth name? Does it make a difference if the application states the company will not discriminate based on gender identity?

Thanks.

FtM changes

[findingtom.livejournal.com]

Hi everyone.

I have a couple of questions about FtM changes whilst on T.

Firstly my forearms, i know with muscle growth they will get a bit bigger but will having a small bone structure limit that?

Secondly im 5ft 2, someone somewhere did mention that if your growth plates arent fused yet you might gain a bit of height from taking T. Im not sure if thats correct and really im ok with my height but i've heard guys get a lot of stick when they are short. I was wondering if anyones had that problem and how they delt with it?

Finally my voice. It is HIGH, im 19 but if i get someone ringing the house (from like a bank maybe) and i answer they always ask me to put my 'mummy or daddy on the phone' its embarrasing. I will never be able to pass with this voice and im worried when it breaks it will still be high. Anybody else in this situation? any tips to get it lower maybe?

Thanks =]