Need help getting my fiancee to understand.

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Maybe someone here can point me in the right direction.


I came to the realization earlier this year about being mtf TG and initially, my fiancee/gf of two and a half years seemed very enthusiastic and supportive (probably because she thought it was some sort of phase).  But now it's become an issue of tension and disappointment between us.  For the reccord, she is straight and cis.   She used to say she was attracted to my femininity way before I came to the realization of my own gender dysphoria (more like coming out of denial).  Now it seems like I'm having a lot of trouble getting her to understand that I'm not going to become someone different, or that I will 'change' somehow into an unrecognizable person from the person she got engaged to.     I'm thinking of once I'm prepared to go to counseling/therapy that I try and get a joint session or something in order to sort out these issues and perhaps get her to be more understanding and accepting.  As it stands, I am pretty much faced with either denying myself the option of transitioning or losing the person most dear to me.
Are there any resources available for spouses/significant others of TG/TS people that I can maybe show her, that may open her eyes to that it's not all bad news and ill omens?