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transSince my last post, I visited the Clinical Psychologist my GP referred me to. She has some experience with the subject and agreed. She sent the GP a letter recommending that I get my ID corrected.
Based off that, the GP wrote the letter needed by the Australian Passport office to alter the gender on a passport.
I’ve known the GP for years (school friends with Dad), so he also did the photo guarantor stuff. He was hesitant to correct the letter (he entered the wrong number on the first one and had to do it again) to match that photo with a female passport, thinking it would cause “issues” with some places given where I was traveling.
Between hotel and airline staff and security and border officials in Australia, US, UK, Qatar, UAE, France, Belgium, China, Hong Kong, Japan and Singapore, I must have dealt with over 800 different people who had to view ID and/or name at some stage. Only a handful of people showed any confusion over the name (all airline staff). The worst “issue” was the hotel in Tokyo altering the title on my reservation from Miss to Mr when I checked in (despite my passport saying female).
One Qantas flight attendant noticed the “difference” on the manifest and rather then question it, asked how I would like to be addressed. :D
Before I left on my holiday, my parents “demanded” that I leave a copy of my itinerary. They had noticed that I had started getting “official” mail with my preferred name and questioned it. They were away when I left, so I left a note with the itinerary explaining that yes, I had changed my name and what was happening.
Mum normally sends me text messages when I’m away, so I had been expecting to get a message a week or so into the trip. Never got anything until the morning I returned to Australia trying to organise picking me up at the airport. When I saw them, they said nothing about it. After dropping me off at home, they went shopping so I was at home alone for a while. When I was going through my pile of mail, I found a note from them. The note indicated that they accepted the whole thing, but it hasn’t been mentioned since. So they are aware of it and seem to accept it, but seem to want me to discuss it first.
I don’t want to discuss it with them. There is nothing to discuss. I just want them to be aware of it. ie, “This is the situation. This is what’s happening. Period.”
I still have the issue of telling others, such as extended family, siblings, work…
I had intended to tell the rest of the family over Christmas (at least about the name change. They’d likely work out anything else from that). Of course, every time I attempted to say something, I was interrupted or spoken over.
Next chance, at least with some of the family, is over the Australia Day long weekend.
Still don’t know about telling work at this stage. The HR situation is unknown. There hasn’t been a stable store manager for the last 13 months, and there are people at work who think the entire concept of transgender is quite funny.
Of course, it seems that any time something happens, half the city knows about it within a few weeks. I see customers at work (even when I’m there as a customer) who I don’t know, who sure seem to know me. I can only assume that they work with Mum in some way (eg, girl guides).
Then, my sister is also a guide leader. Someone on the front end at work goes to guides with my sister. My sister finds out about this, she’ll tell that person from work (it will come up somehow)... within a week, everyone at work will have heard rumours about it.
I saw the Psychologist in August. I have to see her again soon to get hormones (well, a referral to an endocrinologist). Between my holiday and the busy Christmas period at work, I haven’t been able to get back there, but I’m not sure if I should wait until I’ve be able to tell more of the family. But I would like to get started on hormones soon...
Speaking of hormones, how quickly do they start making noticeable changes to appearance (eg measurements)? Days? Weeks? Months? How major/drastic are said changes?
I have possible plans coming up that such changes may impact (possible trip to Anime Expo and next round the world holiday for 4-6 weeks during September-November).
Based off that, the GP wrote the letter needed by the Australian Passport office to alter the gender on a passport.
I’ve known the GP for years (school friends with Dad), so he also did the photo guarantor stuff. He was hesitant to correct the letter (he entered the wrong number on the first one and had to do it again) to match that photo with a female passport, thinking it would cause “issues” with some places given where I was traveling.
Between hotel and airline staff and security and border officials in Australia, US, UK, Qatar, UAE, France, Belgium, China, Hong Kong, Japan and Singapore, I must have dealt with over 800 different people who had to view ID and/or name at some stage. Only a handful of people showed any confusion over the name (all airline staff). The worst “issue” was the hotel in Tokyo altering the title on my reservation from Miss to Mr when I checked in (despite my passport saying female).
One Qantas flight attendant noticed the “difference” on the manifest and rather then question it, asked how I would like to be addressed. :D
Before I left on my holiday, my parents “demanded” that I leave a copy of my itinerary. They had noticed that I had started getting “official” mail with my preferred name and questioned it. They were away when I left, so I left a note with the itinerary explaining that yes, I had changed my name and what was happening.
Mum normally sends me text messages when I’m away, so I had been expecting to get a message a week or so into the trip. Never got anything until the morning I returned to Australia trying to organise picking me up at the airport. When I saw them, they said nothing about it. After dropping me off at home, they went shopping so I was at home alone for a while. When I was going through my pile of mail, I found a note from them. The note indicated that they accepted the whole thing, but it hasn’t been mentioned since. So they are aware of it and seem to accept it, but seem to want me to discuss it first.
I don’t want to discuss it with them. There is nothing to discuss. I just want them to be aware of it. ie, “This is the situation. This is what’s happening. Period.”
I still have the issue of telling others, such as extended family, siblings, work…
I had intended to tell the rest of the family over Christmas (at least about the name change. They’d likely work out anything else from that). Of course, every time I attempted to say something, I was interrupted or spoken over.
Next chance, at least with some of the family, is over the Australia Day long weekend.
Still don’t know about telling work at this stage. The HR situation is unknown. There hasn’t been a stable store manager for the last 13 months, and there are people at work who think the entire concept of transgender is quite funny.
Of course, it seems that any time something happens, half the city knows about it within a few weeks. I see customers at work (even when I’m there as a customer) who I don’t know, who sure seem to know me. I can only assume that they work with Mum in some way (eg, girl guides).
Then, my sister is also a guide leader. Someone on the front end at work goes to guides with my sister. My sister finds out about this, she’ll tell that person from work (it will come up somehow)... within a week, everyone at work will have heard rumours about it.
I saw the Psychologist in August. I have to see her again soon to get hormones (well, a referral to an endocrinologist). Between my holiday and the busy Christmas period at work, I haven’t been able to get back there, but I’m not sure if I should wait until I’ve be able to tell more of the family. But I would like to get started on hormones soon...
Speaking of hormones, how quickly do they start making noticeable changes to appearance (eg measurements)? Days? Weeks? Months? How major/drastic are said changes?
I have possible plans coming up that such changes may impact (possible trip to Anime Expo and next round the world holiday for 4-6 weeks during September-November).