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transI'm getting annoyed with the number of people online with whom I seem to be having good conversations, who suddenly 'freak out' when I tell them I'm TS. Even if they claim it's not a problem, they often act like it is, and soon stop talking to me. I had been trying telling people sooner about me being TS, on the basis that if they're going to freak out and not want to talk any more, at least I won't have wasted so much time already. On the other hand, perhaps I should tell people later, so that by then maybe they will have got to know me for who I am and they will be more able to overlook it.
In real life, I very rarely tell people at all, and let them just take me as they find me. Perhaps I should do that on the internet too, but then if I ever got to know someone well enough that we tried meeting in real life, they might realise something was 'odd', and that would be far worse than if they'd decided on the internet that something was odd, and didn't want anything more to do with me. It's unlikely I expect, but they might feel like I had lied to them, and with the wrong person, I could be in a lot of trouble in a situation like that.
I really don't know what I should do - be open about me being TS, and get rid of close minded people quickly and easily; or try to hide it, and not have to worry about close minded people at all - until perhaps at a later date, when i could end up with a far larger problem than if I'd mentioned things sooner.
Does anyone have any suggestions?
cross-posted to my own livejournal
In real life, I very rarely tell people at all, and let them just take me as they find me. Perhaps I should do that on the internet too, but then if I ever got to know someone well enough that we tried meeting in real life, they might realise something was 'odd', and that would be far worse than if they'd decided on the internet that something was odd, and didn't want anything more to do with me. It's unlikely I expect, but they might feel like I had lied to them, and with the wrong person, I could be in a lot of trouble in a situation like that.
I really don't know what I should do - be open about me being TS, and get rid of close minded people quickly and easily; or try to hide it, and not have to worry about close minded people at all - until perhaps at a later date, when i could end up with a far larger problem than if I'd mentioned things sooner.
Does anyone have any suggestions?
cross-posted to my own livejournal