Wonderful Ally Moment
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transYesterday I had the most wonderful ally moment, I wanted to share it with all of you. I work at a tutoring center, and one of the other tutors came in and was trying to solve a sudoku puzzle. He knew that I do them now and then as well said "I've working on this all day, do you want to take a look at it?" and handed it to me. After looking at it for a few moments, one of the students sitting nearby said something. I don't remember exactly what she said but it was something like "I could never do those, it must be a male thing."
I stopped for about 5-10 seconds as I just tried to figure out what I could say to that. I'm out to some people at work, but mostly the people who get it to some degree. The fact that she said that kinda shows she doesn't really get it, and I didn't really think I wanted to come out to her. Anything I would have said would only have drawn more attention to everything, so I just gave up and decided not to say anything.
Just after I gave up, one of the other tutors chimed in and said to me, "That's interesting. So Tobi, do you find other girls do sudoku puzzles too? Because, I mean, you're a girl and you do sudoku puzzles." It was a great response and better than anything I could have said in the situation. I am so happy to work with such a great coworker.
I stopped for about 5-10 seconds as I just tried to figure out what I could say to that. I'm out to some people at work, but mostly the people who get it to some degree. The fact that she said that kinda shows she doesn't really get it, and I didn't really think I wanted to come out to her. Anything I would have said would only have drawn more attention to everything, so I just gave up and decided not to say anything.
Just after I gave up, one of the other tutors chimed in and said to me, "That's interesting. So Tobi, do you find other girls do sudoku puzzles too? Because, I mean, you're a girl and you do sudoku puzzles." It was a great response and better than anything I could have said in the situation. I am so happy to work with such a great coworker.