I was outed

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I was at a friend's house earlier. Only two out of six people there already knew about me being trans. The four people who didn't know have never met me before. Since I went back to living as male(it's only temporarily) I expect that my friends can respect me enough not to out me to strangers. I was a bit surprised and angry when one of the four people who did not previously know about me being trans came to me and began asking questions about when I was planning on transitioning and if my family knows. I honestly felt betrayed but I held my tongue and waited until I got my two friends alone before I said anything about being outed. I later asked my two friends which of them had outed me. One of them confessed and said she felt she was only educating someone who did not know much about transsexuality. I fail to see how outing me equals educating anyone on transsexuality. All in all I feel hurt because this person had been a trusted friend for six years. I haven't decided if I'm going to end the friendship or give her another chance and forgive her for outing me. I know people make mistakes but I have trouble forgiving people when they hurt me. I feel that her outing me was out of line and not what a truly ally would do.

x-posted to mtf