I need some guidance
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transI need some guidance.
I have a wonderful girlfriend. She's sweet, caring, intelligent, and a lot of fun to be around. She's accepted me for who I am, helped me get through some difficult times, laughed with me, cried with me, and we've shared a lot of memories together.
However, I have this feeling that, in her heart, she's a guy. We've talked about it a lot, and she loves to fantasize about "being the guy", and she hates so many aspects of her female body and female gender role. Whenever I ask her if she wishes to transition, she always says things like "I'm too short" or "my facial features are too feminine, I'd never pass", or "I don't want a penis that doesn't function".
I love her for the wonderful person she is on the inside- not some boy-shell or girl-shell. I want her to be happy with herself, and I'm afraid she's cheating herself out of more happiness just because she's afraid she wouldn't be the most perfectly passable guy. But at the same time, I don't know if she's outright miserable being female, or if this is something she just dreams about.
I wish I could help her sift through some of her doubt and fears, but I don't know how. For those of you who had similar doubts and fears, how did you confront and deal with them?
I have a wonderful girlfriend. She's sweet, caring, intelligent, and a lot of fun to be around. She's accepted me for who I am, helped me get through some difficult times, laughed with me, cried with me, and we've shared a lot of memories together.
However, I have this feeling that, in her heart, she's a guy. We've talked about it a lot, and she loves to fantasize about "being the guy", and she hates so many aspects of her female body and female gender role. Whenever I ask her if she wishes to transition, she always says things like "I'm too short" or "my facial features are too feminine, I'd never pass", or "I don't want a penis that doesn't function".
I love her for the wonderful person she is on the inside- not some boy-shell or girl-shell. I want her to be happy with herself, and I'm afraid she's cheating herself out of more happiness just because she's afraid she wouldn't be the most perfectly passable guy. But at the same time, I don't know if she's outright miserable being female, or if this is something she just dreams about.
I wish I could help her sift through some of her doubt and fears, but I don't know how. For those of you who had similar doubts and fears, how did you confront and deal with them?