transdating

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So, I seem to have found myself in an interesting position. For a long time now, I've pretty much decided the internet has taken over the world and people don't really meet eachother in person anymore first lol. It seems to be through the veil of social networking sites, people get themselves comfortable with the idea of that person and then go out. Nobody really approaches anyone else anymore.

 

Just to clarify first, I'm a pre-everything mtf transsexual. My  icon picture is rather misleading because now I've got longer blonde hair and I'm actually reasonably passable. So, I find myself at work. I work in a shoe store, and I was rearranging everything on the shelves because I'm entirely OCD about it. He's looking for sandals, and he's looking in the size next to the size I'm rearranging. we talk, blah blah blah, he introduces himself, blah blah blah. Anyway, I ring him through and he asks me if I'd like to have coffee sometime. So, I'm not 100% passable, maybe slightly above 50% passable. So I'm not sure if he's figured out that I have the chin of a boy and a few certain other parts of one as well.

I don't particuarily want to hide from him that I'm probably not who he thinks I am haha, but I don't want to expose myself right away. The only thing that makes me nervous is something like what happened in New York the other day, when a postop trans girl was involved in a lawsuit, got outed by some lawyers, and a group of men in her small town beat her with a sledge hammer and buried her alive, not before gang raping her (this happening TWO hours after police surveillance on her ended). So, besides the obvious "meet in a public place" thing, what other advise would you have? What did you do when dating in a situation like mine? Also, the more important question haha, should I say something and gather his opinion now, or should I just shut up and wait until it gets more serious?