Passability won't help you
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transJust to help you to avoid some typical illusions about living 'full time'.
I live in the UK & have been 'full time MtF' for about 4 years now. I work as an adult model & escort, among other things.
No matter how 'passable' you are, people will still find out & pass that knowledge around, so if you live in the same place for long enough, you will still have a 'tranny' label permanently attached to your image no matter what. Tits, hormones, SRS, it won't matter.
*Especially* if you are confident, attractive & successful.
This infuriates the plebs even more, that you are not hiding & are more pretty than their girlfriends.
They *will* use any chance to give you a hard time the moment you position yourself socially like any other 'normal' girl of your age. The prettier you are, the more hassles you will get.
Like today, I went to the Lansdowne in Leicester. A group of drunken yobs asked me to pose for a photograph with them. When I declined, they tried to force me. I pushed them back, they started shouting abuse (you have all heard in before: 'Fucking tranny', 'You are not a fucking woman' etc etc etc)
I call the security guy, he reluctantly mumbles to the group 'Leave HIM alone', on purpose. I say to him: 'I am not a HE', he says: 'I did not say anything about your SEX LIFE, MATE' - I say 'No you called me 'HE' while I am a 'SHE'' - he now addresses the group: 'Hey guys, did I call him HE?' etc etc etc.
This is 'normal', in inverted commas.
So my advice to anyone who is transitioning is to get very thick skinned, you'll need a lot of that skin every day.
And *never* feel victimised, even when you ARE being victimised.
Don't be afraid to do what a 'real' girl would do: slap them in the face, because they *know* they are pushing it.
Do this till you run out of slaps :) then get some more for tomorrow.
I live in the UK & have been 'full time MtF' for about 4 years now. I work as an adult model & escort, among other things.
No matter how 'passable' you are, people will still find out & pass that knowledge around, so if you live in the same place for long enough, you will still have a 'tranny' label permanently attached to your image no matter what. Tits, hormones, SRS, it won't matter.
*Especially* if you are confident, attractive & successful.
This infuriates the plebs even more, that you are not hiding & are more pretty than their girlfriends.
They *will* use any chance to give you a hard time the moment you position yourself socially like any other 'normal' girl of your age. The prettier you are, the more hassles you will get.
Like today, I went to the Lansdowne in Leicester. A group of drunken yobs asked me to pose for a photograph with them. When I declined, they tried to force me. I pushed them back, they started shouting abuse (you have all heard in before: 'Fucking tranny', 'You are not a fucking woman' etc etc etc)
I call the security guy, he reluctantly mumbles to the group 'Leave HIM alone', on purpose. I say to him: 'I am not a HE', he says: 'I did not say anything about your SEX LIFE, MATE' - I say 'No you called me 'HE' while I am a 'SHE'' - he now addresses the group: 'Hey guys, did I call him HE?' etc etc etc.
This is 'normal', in inverted commas.
So my advice to anyone who is transitioning is to get very thick skinned, you'll need a lot of that skin every day.
And *never* feel victimised, even when you ARE being victimised.
Don't be afraid to do what a 'real' girl would do: slap them in the face, because they *know* they are pushing it.
Do this till you run out of slaps :) then get some more for tomorrow.