Passability won't help you

[nasha-sasha.livejournal.com]

Just to help you to avoid some typical illusions about living 'full time'.

I live in the UK & have been 'full time MtF' for about 4 years now. I work as an adult model & escort, among other things.

No matter how 'passable' you are, people will still find out & pass that knowledge around, so if you live in the same place for long enough, you will still have a 'tranny' label permanently attached to your image no matter what. Tits, hormones, SRS, it won't matter.

*Especially* if you are confident, attractive & successful.

This infuriates the plebs even more, that you are not hiding & are more pretty than their girlfriends.

They *will* use any chance to give you a hard time the moment you position yourself socially like any other 'normal' girl of your age. The prettier you are, the more hassles you will get.

Like today, I went to the Lansdowne in Leicester. A group of drunken yobs asked me to pose for a photograph with them. When I declined, they tried to force me. I pushed them back, they started shouting abuse (you have all heard in before: 'Fucking tranny', 'You are not a fucking woman' etc etc etc)

I call the security guy, he reluctantly mumbles to the group 'Leave HIM alone', on purpose. I say to him: 'I am not a HE', he says: 'I did not say anything about your SEX LIFE, MATE' - I say 'No you called me 'HE' while I am a 'SHE'' - he now addresses the group: 'Hey guys, did I call him HE?' etc etc etc.

This is 'normal', in inverted commas.

So my advice to anyone who is transitioning is to get very thick skinned, you'll need a lot of that skin every day.

And *never* feel victimised, even when you ARE being victimised.

Don't be afraid to do what a 'real' girl would do: slap them in the face, because they *know* they are pushing it.

Do this till you run out of slaps :) then get some more for tomorrow.

Accutane?

[jackrad.livejournal.com]

my doctor prescribed me accutane for my acne but did not give me an ipledge number.  the pharmacy asked me to get one and so i called the doctor back.

basically the last week or so i've been having it out with the nurse/..doctor/..director of old town clinic about this--they will not give me an ipledge number unless i either take phamacutical contraceptives or have a hystorectomy.

contraceptives would completely mess up the fact that i'm on testosterone and a hysto is something i want but not something that i should be required to have just so i can take a medication.  Apart from that, testosterone is not fda approved as birth control, but it is.

also, if they filled out the forms for me as male, it would not be an issue, it's only an issue because they insist on marking me down as female.  they said it's like a moral/ethical thing that they can't fill out the forms for me as male as long as i have not had a hysto.

i think this is bullshit and know that FTMs go on accutane all the time, but everyone kept insisting that the ipledge standards and stuff have recently been changed to be more stringent.

it's all on principal at this point because my health insurance just changed to kaiser and will have to start this process all over again with a new doctor, but i'd love to be better prepared this time.  i can't lie and just say i've had a hysto or not tell them i'm trans either because i want to try and get a hysto covered so i put that i was female on my insurance stuff, plus it's an HMO and so i can't just go to one doctor and say one thing and go to another doctor and say something else because my info isn't private.

but i would love some input from anyone who's gone on acutane and overcome similar obsticles.