Those 'Harmless' comments
Jun. 3rd, 2010 09:38 pm![[identity profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/openid.png){kind=small}
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transI'm writing a new article and I need some help.
I want to highlight the effects on the individual who suffers from a prejudiced, transphobic, offensive, or discriminatory comment on the street.
I've just returned home from visiting the local shops to get some food supplies, and gained a first hand experience to deconstruct and look at, but am hoping to gain a few other viewpoints to use in order to explain how the girl feels when someone calls out, 10 paces after they've passed her and aren't in line of sight "you're a man in drag you."
Any other related points would be helpful too.
I've calmed down a bit now, but when it happens I always feel so upset by it. I don't feel like they are harmless ignorable comments; I feel like they're comments that say: “You've failed, you're not a woman,” it's a statement that implies that one should just stop trying, that one is wrong, will always be wrong, and will never be accepted. I hate how it makes me feel so small and worthless, like my life isn't worth living.
I hate that I have to put up with that crap, and I want to have something that I can point to and go "you don't know how I feel, go read this and then come offer me sympathy".
Anyway, rant away, if you want to.
Edited just to clarify: I'm looking for people's experiences and feelings on when this sort of thing happens, I added my own experience and feelings as an example, not the point of the post.
I want to highlight the effects on the individual who suffers from a prejudiced, transphobic, offensive, or discriminatory comment on the street.
I've just returned home from visiting the local shops to get some food supplies, and gained a first hand experience to deconstruct and look at, but am hoping to gain a few other viewpoints to use in order to explain how the girl feels when someone calls out, 10 paces after they've passed her and aren't in line of sight "you're a man in drag you."
Any other related points would be helpful too.
I've calmed down a bit now, but when it happens I always feel so upset by it. I don't feel like they are harmless ignorable comments; I feel like they're comments that say: “You've failed, you're not a woman,” it's a statement that implies that one should just stop trying, that one is wrong, will always be wrong, and will never be accepted. I hate how it makes me feel so small and worthless, like my life isn't worth living.
I hate that I have to put up with that crap, and I want to have something that I can point to and go "you don't know how I feel, go read this and then come offer me sympathy".
Anyway, rant away, if you want to.
Edited just to clarify: I'm looking for people's experiences and feelings on when this sort of thing happens, I added my own experience and feelings as an example, not the point of the post.