Informing my doctor
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transOkay, I'm in an icky, painful dysphoric state at the moment, so I'm going to try and channel it into something useful.
I'm 17 years old, FTN, pre-name change, pre-medical transition and in the middle of social transition, in therapy for gender and other stuff. I live with my parents, who I'm out to; they're supportive but still feel like it's just a stage. Everyone calls me by my preferred name but parents won't let me legally change it until I'm 18 (provided they make good on that and don't make me wait until I leave the house.) So they're also in charge of all my medical things.
I've just switched to a new doctor recently, and the first time I went I tried to see if the people at the desks could put my preferred name in the records somehow. They irritatedly made sure I was called in by it, but the next time I went it was my legal name. I'm pretty sure the doctor knows my preferred name, but he doesn't know that I'm trans, as he referenced "ladies" a couple of times. I find that really painful to hear, so I'm wondering if I should explain that I'm trans and ask him to not use those terms....basically, if anyone has any suggestions for whether or not I should do this and what the best way to go about it is, I would be really grateful.
I'm 17 years old, FTN, pre-name change, pre-medical transition and in the middle of social transition, in therapy for gender and other stuff. I live with my parents, who I'm out to; they're supportive but still feel like it's just a stage. Everyone calls me by my preferred name but parents won't let me legally change it until I'm 18 (provided they make good on that and don't make me wait until I leave the house.) So they're also in charge of all my medical things.
I've just switched to a new doctor recently, and the first time I went I tried to see if the people at the desks could put my preferred name in the records somehow. They irritatedly made sure I was called in by it, but the next time I went it was my legal name. I'm pretty sure the doctor knows my preferred name, but he doesn't know that I'm trans, as he referenced "ladies" a couple of times. I find that really painful to hear, so I'm wondering if I should explain that I'm trans and ask him to not use those terms....basically, if anyone has any suggestions for whether or not I should do this and what the best way to go about it is, I would be really grateful.