A conversation with my fiancee

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I was talking to my fiancee about the fact that DeviantART are now requiring a gender of 'male' or 'female' for new members and how as a result I've deleted my account. For those that don't know, when a complaint was made by another user the DA team were insulting and rude and told the complainant they would have to choose one or the other. Something that immediately caused me to get my heckles up.

But it was as a result of this topic that my fiancee and I got onto the subject of my gender identity and how she's noticed that whilst she's always known I'm Genderqueer, I'm referring to myself more and more in my chosen pronouns. She asked me how I want to be referred to and told me that she's open to the pronouns I'm now choosing to use. Even though the conversation started on a bad note, something good came from it and I just wanted to share with you all.

I think thanks to her understanding I'm ready to start asking my friends to use the pronouns I prefer sooner rather than later.