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the_bordererMy next door neighbour is at it again.
She caught me as I was leaving my parents house, and started talking to me. Predictably the subject came to the length of my hair. She doesn't like it and I don't know how to tell her that I am trans and have absolubtly no intention of getting it cut short. Or even if I should, she is in her 80s and although she is an ex Wren (and therefore not from a sheltered world) I don't think she would take it too well. she seems to be ignoring the two lumps on my chest as well.
Anyways, she said a few things that I would like to comment on, although not to her face for obvious reasons.
My hair is says the wrong thing about me.
What does it say about me? that I am a trouble maker (as she sees me as male)? In case she hadn't noticed, most of the troublemakers in Carlisle all have short hair. Even if I wasn't trans then I would probably have some length to it.
That I let my hair get long because I haven't got a job and my hair was nicer when I was at school.
I would think that old age has affected her memory here. I started growing my hair long when I was 14. When I was 17 and at 6th form my hair was longer than it is now (it was halfway down my back). The only other local transgirl I have met was at the same school at the same time and remembered me for my long hair.
Changing the subject for just a minute, she used to do voluntary work at the same place that I am working at now. I must remember to ask Emma if she is still in touch with her tomorrow.
I can't get a job because of the length of my hair.
I would think that the reason that I can't get a job is more to do with being trans (unofficially, of course) and a general lack of opportunities in the area.
I was trying not to get upset about her calling me a young man (repeatedly), I managed it for the duration of the conversation amazingly. Even more amazing was that I wasnt in tears afterwards.
I like her but I just don't know what to do about this. She will get a shock when I do get my hair cut, and styled at the same time (planned for next week)
She caught me as I was leaving my parents house, and started talking to me. Predictably the subject came to the length of my hair. She doesn't like it and I don't know how to tell her that I am trans and have absolubtly no intention of getting it cut short. Or even if I should, she is in her 80s and although she is an ex Wren (and therefore not from a sheltered world) I don't think she would take it too well. she seems to be ignoring the two lumps on my chest as well.
Anyways, she said a few things that I would like to comment on, although not to her face for obvious reasons.
My hair is says the wrong thing about me.
What does it say about me? that I am a trouble maker (as she sees me as male)? In case she hadn't noticed, most of the troublemakers in Carlisle all have short hair. Even if I wasn't trans then I would probably have some length to it.
That I let my hair get long because I haven't got a job and my hair was nicer when I was at school.
I would think that old age has affected her memory here. I started growing my hair long when I was 14. When I was 17 and at 6th form my hair was longer than it is now (it was halfway down my back). The only other local transgirl I have met was at the same school at the same time and remembered me for my long hair.
Changing the subject for just a minute, she used to do voluntary work at the same place that I am working at now. I must remember to ask Emma if she is still in touch with her tomorrow.
I can't get a job because of the length of my hair.
I would think that the reason that I can't get a job is more to do with being trans (unofficially, of course) and a general lack of opportunities in the area.
I was trying not to get upset about her calling me a young man (repeatedly), I managed it for the duration of the conversation amazingly. Even more amazing was that I wasnt in tears afterwards.
I like her but I just don't know what to do about this. She will get a shock when I do get my hair cut, and styled at the same time (planned for next week)