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[wildtigress.livejournal.com]

Hello again. ^.^; Got another question for you.

I've been advised by a good friend of mine that for at least the sake of my mental health in such it might be better if I get an apartment next semester so that I can feel free to dress as I want too. But I'm worried about my roommate. I mean, he's a great guy......he's been really nice this semester, and I only have a few complaitns about him.

BUT he doesn't know I'm bi, nor TG, nor do I plan on telling him. And I don't think he'd take it well.

So what do I tell him if I decide to take an apartment next semester? Keep in mind, I live in a dorm.

And I would really love to live in an apartment....I mean, it would give me alot of freedom. Especially since my roommate is kinda nosy.

Well, any advice?

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[viesti.livejournal.com]

I just got screwed over by my workplace.

More than six months ago, I originally approached my supervisor and came out to her, with the eventual goal of transitioning at work. Since that time, I've been inhumanly patient dealing with HR. On numerous occasions, it looked like we had made such good process on the transition-at-work situation that I thought it would be resolved within a week or two. But each time, something else came up, they gave me more hoops to jump through, or they just sat there and did nothing.

I got so tired of being jerked around that I went up to my supervisor yesterday (who has been 110% supportive throughout this whole ordeal) and told her that I needed to just go ahead and transition. I figured there wouldn't be a problem, since I had recently had a meeting with her and the head of Data Processing (the area which I work in) and they told me that they'd turn a blind eye if need be.

Today, my supervisor spoke to me and told me that this was now out of the hands of everyone I'd been dealing with up to this point. The Superintendent himself (I work for the School Board of Pinellas County, Florida) basically said that I couldn't transition before surgery. Not only that, but if I were to go ahead and come to work as myself anyways, my supervisor would have no choice but to take disciplinary action (she's been working for the school board for nearly two decades, and is unwilling to risk her own job or retirement by refusing to do so.)

None of my other options are good, either. If I quit or resign, I won't be able to collect unemployment checks. If I come to work as myself and force them to continuously discipline me until they fire me, I'll lose what would otherwise be a spotless reference for future jobs, as well as the unemployment checks. And the school board's legal department is a juggernaut, and the laws of Florida are definitely not on my side, so I have little chance of winning a legal battle.

I'm unwilling to put off transition any further, though. A year ago on my birthday, I made a promise to myself that by my next birthday, I'd be full-time and my transition struggles would be nothing more than a bad memory... and that's now just two weeks away, with the end nowhere in sight. It's become too emotionally draining for me to pretend to be someone I'm not.

What the hell am I supposed to do...?