Your opinion??

[marshjam.livejournal.com]

Ok heres something people always seem to be asking me. What is the difference between dating someone and seeing someone?? I dont know how many different times i have had to explain it...Can someone give me their thoughts on this?

Quandry

[deeper-than-red.livejournal.com]

I've always been open and honest with my partner about my GID, and she's been very supportive of me and I thank her for it, but there's a snag:

As a student, I had to rely on the NHS and it's incredibly s....l....o....w. This kind of lead to the situation where, although she knows I will one day start transitioning, it's always been in the future and she's kind of put it out of her immediate thoughts. Now that I've graduated and have a job etc, I could probably afford a private psych session where I would be able to set things in motion. Ideally I wouldn't do this without telling my partner, as I feel she has a right to know, but I'm not sure of how to bring it up. I can't really just be watching aDVD with her and casually say "Oh by the way, I'm going to see someone about maybe getting hormones." and yet I can't not say anything.

It wouldn't be too much of a problem, but we bot want different things (me to be happy and feel "right", her to have babies and the usual architypal stuff). This is going to cause her a lot of pain and upset (as it did when I first sought help) and I don't really like the thought of putting her through that; Especially since we've grown closer between my first seeing my GP and now.

Does anyone have any ideas how I ought to aproach this in such a way as to cause the minimum angst, pain and trauma to both her and myself?

Sorry if this is a bit rambling, but I've had a long day.

Thanks
C