I have a dr. question

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I have this friend who went and seen a dr this past week and he was telling me some of the "funny" stuff she did. I however am very concerned about how the dr. treated him. He said he didn't mind..but is this right? here's the situation....he went to see this dr. (she's never treated FTMs before I think he said) she wrote him his T script and he's been on T for a month or two. He went back for his check up this week and she started asking about hair growth, deeping of the voice, all sorts of stuff..then she asked about his dick growth. And she hinted around to see it. She put on her gloves and started touching it. He said he didn't mind..but I've never had that happen before. I think he thinks this is normal....but is it? I'm concerned she's taking advatage of him and he doesn't even know it....any advise anyone can give me would be good.

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Next week I'm going up to visit some old friends from college, and I want to come out to one of them. I figured he'd be a good person to tell, because I still talk to him online and on the phone, he was really supportive for an mtf friend of ours, and he occassionally performs in drag shows. I think he'll be very supportive, and even though he's a bit of a gossip I don't think he'll tell anyone who will let it get to my family or people that I know here. I'm really nervous, though. I have come out to two people, but I told them through email. I've never said anything about being ftm aloud before. I could type it a million times, but even when I say it in my room with nobody home I get nervous. I want to tell him face to face, so that I can see his reaction and also to try to get a feel for actually talking about it.

My question though, is how do I do this? How did you come out to people the first time? I have no idea what to say to him. I chicken out whenever I decide to talk to someone. My english proffesor in college told me to talk to a conselor about it and I made an appointment, but I got too scared to go. I've chickened out of telling like three friends and my twin sister. The closest I ever came to talking about it was when I asked my mtf friend if she remembered about me telling her the thing about being a guy. She said yes and I told her that I'd been thinking about it a lot lately and that I thought it was the only way I would be happy. That was the end of that conversation and I never brought it up again. I don't even say anything when she has me try dresses on for her at department stores. I'm about the same size as her and she doesn't pass too well, so I understand the need for it.

Wow, I ramble a lot when I'm nervous. I really want to get over this, because when I'm not comfortable enough to talk about it I feel like I'm ashamed of it or something, and I don't want to be ashamed of myself. I'm scared, but you have to start somewhere and I am determined to start now.

Just some reminders...please pass them on.

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