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[zabyprite.livejournal.com]

My best friend and ex, who happens to be MtF is apparently having break downs, because she cannot see how she will ever be able to pass as a woman, and accepted into society (as well as the people in her life) as one. I don't know if it is the reality of what is going is really hitting her, or if its that she came out to her family recently (Not being very supportive)
Granted, I have accepted her as a woman, but I feel like I am doing something wrong.

And what makes matters worse, is she missed pridefest today. I went and met some really nice people. She had a breakdown shortly after I called her about it.

Checking out resources and helping her buy underwear may be helpful. And so is listening, and repeating that I care and fully support her. But maybe I've been putting too much emphasis on her being different, and not being normal. Because although she is an odd one, she is a normal human being.

I'm not quite sure what I'm asking, but I want to be able to give her the support she really needs.

What are our choices?

[aetienne.livejournal.com]

It's coming up to that time when I need to speak to my parents about my relationship. That we're moving in together and that my boyfriend will be becoming my girlfriend.

The wrench that got thrown in to make this more complicated than this situation already creates is that I discovered my mother is strongly against the fact that I am dating an Arab. Yeah. Getting way too hung up on race, culture, and religion (even though Agnostic), let alone throwing in transexuality.

You may read the details here.

So because of this, my partner has grown highly distrustful of their ability to not turn around and blab about being transexual. But, we have no idea how they cannot know with our relationship continuing. They're going to catch on real quick that my Arab ex-boyfriend, and current Arab girlfriend are the same person.

We're wondering what choices we have here. Any ideas of how to handle this? Yes, the details show how much of an asshole my mother is and I would ditch her from my life in a heartbeat except that she lives with my grandmother whom I love dearly.

Would it be bad if they did blab? We'd live two states away from them, and even farther from everyone else in my family. Would that be a significant threat to any stealth options?

(x-posted to partners of tg and transgender)