(very long) please help me untangle this...what do you see?

[effeteifrit.livejournal.com]

Ahhh...

I would post this to the new account I made, but generally it seems to fit this one better.

I'm having a problem with my breasts...can I say that? Recently I came to the re-realization that I might be multiple, and so...I'm trying to factor this in to what I'm experiencing.

I would rather just be trans and *not* multiple...

Or maybe I'm not multiple and I'm really a man and I'm just in denial.

Denial lasts for however long you can tolerate it, I suppose. ( Read more... )

I hate sterotypes.

[z-zero-z.livejournal.com]

Hi. I'm Sakura.

I hate Sterotypes. I hate it that people think that sex and gender are the same. I hate that people lable me. I hate it that people just can't accecpt me for who I am.

Why can't people just accecpt me for who I am? Why must people lable?

I'm in kind of a bad place right now...

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Hi, I'm me

[serenefish.livejournal.com]

Hi there everybody :)
I'm a newbie to everything here... I'm pre EVERYTHING. I'm 19, biologically male, and just in a very uncertain place right now. I won't bore you all with the intimate details, particularly since so much of them sound exactly like every other trans person's :P But I basically don't identify as male, and am clueless beyond that >_<

Well, the main reason I'm posting here is that I've finally taken the first step - I'm looking to find a therapist/psychologist to help me work through my gender issues, and possibly help me obtain hormones, if we end up deciding that's the right path.

So I was wondering if anybody here knows of a good counselor/therapist/psychologist thingie in the NYC area (as in, any of the boroughs, or New Jersey, anywhere nearby)? I mean, it's not as if I can't find any - there are actually too many, hehe. It's just that I have no idea who's good, who's an anal gatekeeper, who's whatever. I was hoping probability would work for me and help me find a New Yorker in this community who has some firsthand info that could help me.

If you don't want to directly respond here, you can comment on my journal, or e-mail me at serenefish@gmail.com .

Thanks so much everyone, and hopefully I'll get to meet you all eventually. :) Bye!

(crossposted to newtrans ,mtf , for those who care >_< )

Who wants frozen eggs for breakfast

[crimsonwolf82.livejournal.com]

Does anyone have information on freezing your eggs before you start HRT? Granted I'm not going to start before I graduate, which is 2 years from now. But it's something I want info on so I can have it really thought out beforehand

Intro

[dm-diary.livejournal.com]

Hiya Folks!

I just joined the Transgender group. My handle is dm_diary, my name is Dave, I'm a philosopher, middle-aged, tg lesbian, non-passing and "other-abled". Seeing as how I don't even try to pass, maybe I should call myself a gender queer? Whatever... I'm a woman, what others call me doesn't matter so much!

Its taken me 15+ years to get the medico's to admit I'm trans. But, things ARE getting better, folks! More people are getting to be more accepting, it just that it takes SO freaking long!

I see a lot of postings where people are decrying the fact that so many people are using labels. Well, personally, the only times a label bothers me is when they get it wrong! I'd give anything to be seen and accepted as "just" a female human being... but when I look in a mirror, I can understand others confusion! LOL - I'm expecting it and the cognitive still dissonance shakes me up, I can just imagine what's going through their skulls!

I think people use labels more as a personal shortcut than for any other reason. Consider human evolution, if cave dwellers had stopped to consider every event, WE wouldn't be here because THEY would have been lion food! So, the way I see it, its kinda like living under the Bush administration... it sucks, but we're stuck with it, so... you do your best to survive it... and never stop trying to change it!

Anyway... Hiya!

PS - Anyone notice that "transgender" comes up on Spell Check as being spelled incorrectly? Just sayin! :)

How the hell do you pay for SRS???

[foxxygirltamara.livejournal.com]

I'm 20 and I would like SRS definitely by the time I'm 30 (at the latest!). Even taking 10 years to save up for it, that's $150-$200/month (in addition to other trans-specific costs like laser/electro which I haven't started yet). I'm a student as well so I'm pilling up the debt fairly quickly (like $5k/year). I have no help from my parents on any of this. Before I came out as trans, they were sending me like $100 for my birthday but that's it and now all of that has dried up -- they say if things are too hard on me then I'll give up on this (ha!). I have a hard enough finding money for food and rent. How do I find a way to save for surgery???

Anyone who's had to pay for any sort of procedures (top surgery, bottom surgery, hysto, etc.) without insurance, please comment!

Job Stuff

[foxxygirltamara.livejournal.com]

How big a deal is it being trans in the workplace? Mainly, I just want to know who will know and who's going to find out. In Washington, I can change my gender as soon as I have the money (it just takes a therapist's letter and I've had that for three months) but birth certificate can't get changed until I have surgery (perhaps an orchi works too). So figure that I pass, I have a changed name and gender on my driver's license but not on my birth certificate. Who will know what?

In general though, I want the fewest people to know about my past. I know true "stealth" is impossible and as far as my friends, I feel like I need to come out to them soon after I meet them so they all know. But outside of that safe circle, how safe from this can I be?

I didn't transition to be a "transsexual", I just want to be a girl -- to be myself. I'm just not sure how to do that.

Relative life expectancy

[ottermama.livejournal.com]

It's been documented that genetic females tend to live longer than genetic males, has anyone heard how this works in the trans community? Do FTM's tend to have a greater life expectancy than MTFs? This is not a big issue, just something that I became curious about recently. ^^