Help Save Sassy's Life!!!

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My partner, Sassafras, is in a serious medical situation. Sassafras is a genderqueer/trans 21-year old, and hir ovaries and uterus are currently home to rapidly growing tumors, some of which have begun to rupture within Sass’s abdomen. These tumors cause Sass extreme persistent pain, not to mention a fairly severe medical risk.

Sass was scheduled to have a hysterectomy to have this taken care of last summer. Two doctors and a surgeon agreed that it needed to happen. The insurance backed out at the last minute. They claimed that, first of all, they would not fund a (very much needed) hysterectomy for Sass because they did not want to impinge on Sass’s ability to have children (though Sass doesn’t want kids), and that they wouldn’t consider funding a hysterectomy until Sass was at least 35 years old – 14 years from now. Since then, we have also learned that the insurance company also is refusing because some of Sass’s medical records list Sass’s gender as “Male.” Thus, the insurance claims that they don’t need to pay for this medically-legitimate surgery because, “Why would a male need a hysterectomy?” Upon further questioning, the insurance company has declared that they won't cover it because they refuse to help Sass have a "sex change."

Because the insurance won’t cover this surgery, and Sass will be in great danger if this surgery doesn’t happen, we’ve decided that we need to make it happen ourselves. The surgery is scheduled for August 16th, 2006. The date is set, now we just need to pay for it. The total cost is $13,400

Sassy and I have been saving money, but we’re not going to be able to do this on our own. We are asking for your help We need to raise $11,000 by August 16th, 2006. We will be organizing a number of benefits over the next few months, and I have put together a donation website as well:

http://savesassy.org

Anything helps, even a dollar. We cannot do this on our own.

Thank you so much for your help!

Please feel free to forward and repost this wherever you think appropriate.

THANK YOU!!!!

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[savannahkestrel.livejournal.com]

Okay, I'm really having a tough time here.

I'm trying to get my state ID from the DMV. I first submitted a DL-328 along with my app to the DMV Jan 18 or such. I couldn't change my name with SSA, as they would only do it if I had a court order. So, I went back to the DMV told them the story, then changed my name back to my legal one and set it on it's way. I waited 34 more days. Nothing. I go back, Oops. They have two ID numbers for me. One under Sav the other under Matt. They delete one, I talk to Sacramento. It's all on it's way, right? Wrong. I wait, 24 days later. I get a letter from the DMV saying my SS number did not verify. Why? Because the last number they had was a 4. The actual number is a 9. I correct this, send the letter back to them. It's now on the 32nd day today, and I have yet to hear from them.

Normally, this would just be an annoyance. However, I need this ID to join the California Conservation Corps-- I'm staying at a friend's house as I was thrown out of my mom's and once I get my ID I'll be able to go to the Corps and stay in dorms. But it's been 3 months or 79 days since I started this. My friend wants me out on April 15 at the latest. I'm at a loss at what to do.

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A positive story.

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Doubt, Doubt, Let it All Out.

[shelleybear.livejournal.com]

These are the thing I can do without, so come on, I'm questioning you, Come on.
In changing times, I shouldn't have to doubt my role.
Those changing times I really need to match my soul
I really need to.
Doubt, doubt*
In a conversation with a girlfriend of mine she raised an interesting question.
Do I feel as I do because I haven't been laid for over a year (unheard of for me since I was 17) and my mind is trying to manufacture the perfect woman?
This is the first argument against transitioning I can't just dismiss out of hand.
Look, if you can't participate in this post nicely then don't.
I need constructive thoughts.



*With apologies to "Tears for Fears"

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[flamesof-ice.livejournal.com]

Hello everyone! I'm new to the community and thought I would introduce myself. My name is Katie (or Kat/Kate, whichever you prefer), and I live in Maryland. I'm now a senior in high school, and since my sophomore year especially, I have been struggling with my gender. I have so many memories of feeling wrong within my own body, like I was a fake wearing some sort of costume (actually my first memory is of my dad telling me I had to put my shirt back on when I was 4 or 5 because I was running around with the other boys topless). For the first eight years or so since that memory (until I was around 13), I acted how I felt (aka, "tomboyish"), and was always disappointed and frustrated when the boys wouldn't let me play with them, and when I had to start playing softball instead of baseball, etc., because all I wanted to do was be one of the guys. For a few years, I prayed every night to God that I would wake up the next morning as a boy (and I did so trying to feel full confidence that he would do it, since by that age I had heard Jesus' saying that if you believed that God would help you with something, he would...I think Jesus said "move mountains" or something of that nature). The next morning, I would look down and be crushed because I realized again and again that I would never be the boy I felt I was, and not even God would help me. After 7th or 8th grade, I just sort of gave up. Since then (until recently), I've been pushing back the thoughts about my gender, about feeling like I'm somehow wearing a costume with no zipper, so it will never come off. Well, now I've decided to accept it, as much as it can be anyway. I try not to think about it for the most part, since it only makes me sad that I can't do much about it. Still, I can't help but see a guy staring back at me in the mirror for that half-second before it turns back to a girl. Usually I stop that train of thought before it can go too far. My occasional (fine, not-so-occasional) guilty pleasure is cross-dressing sometimes when I'm alone.

Well, that's the shortened version of my life story ^^ . So here are some pics of me both as a girl and as a guy. Enjoy! (x-posted to...oh I can't do the link-thingys...was never good at them, but FTM and Genderqueer)

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