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Head Over Heels
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lovelyangel.livejournal.com(cross-posted from my personal journal)
For the past eleven years, I've been active in the trans community and have met a lot of people. Brave people. Broken people. Amazing people. I listen to as many stories as I can. And I find that there are two groups of people I look after. The first are the newcomers to the community. Often they are scared, guilt-ridden, and insecure. The sad thing about gatherings for NWGA and Esprit is that the more experienced gals oftentimes are too wrapped up in their own agendas and circles of friends to give enough attention to the neophytes. I make an extra effort to reach out to the newcomers sitting by themselves outside the center of activity. It's hard for me to do, but I think reaching out is very important.
The other group of people that I'm very protective of are the spouses and partners of the transfolk. They are the ones who nearly always have been badly hurt and shaken. Their pain is oftentimes ignored or discounted. I always talk to the partner and ask to hear her story or feelings. The euphoria of the transperson is frequently mirrored by a sorrow or hurt in the spouse.
( For Spouses And Partners )
For the past eleven years, I've been active in the trans community and have met a lot of people. Brave people. Broken people. Amazing people. I listen to as many stories as I can. And I find that there are two groups of people I look after. The first are the newcomers to the community. Often they are scared, guilt-ridden, and insecure. The sad thing about gatherings for NWGA and Esprit is that the more experienced gals oftentimes are too wrapped up in their own agendas and circles of friends to give enough attention to the neophytes. I make an extra effort to reach out to the newcomers sitting by themselves outside the center of activity. It's hard for me to do, but I think reaching out is very important.
The other group of people that I'm very protective of are the spouses and partners of the transfolk. They are the ones who nearly always have been badly hurt and shaken. Their pain is oftentimes ignored or discounted. I always talk to the partner and ask to hear her story or feelings. The euphoria of the transperson is frequently mirrored by a sorrow or hurt in the spouse.
( For Spouses And Partners )
