My Ideas on gender and myself...

[black-cat-1980.livejournal.com]

I have been having some interesting thoughts and feelings lately and wanted to share them. I wondered whether there were any other people who agree or disagree with my new stance on things.

 

 

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Third Gender petition

[ganimede]

From an e-mail

David Solomon has created a petition on the government petitions webpages, calling for legal recognition of third gender status in the UK.

http://petitions.pm.gov.uk/Transgender/

We the undersigned petition the Prime Minister to legally recognize a third gender.

Submitted by David Solomon – Deadline to sign up by: 03 April 2008 – Signatures: 110

Our 'ladies & gents' society allows no space for a third gender - yet gender variant people do exist.

UK law, including the 1975 Sex Discrimination Act, only recognizes & legislates for women & men - deemed equal, but different. Thus a transsexual is afforded protection under UK law only if s/he is about to have, is having, or has already had gender reassignment surgery (a 'sex-change' ) to become either a man or a woman.

However, not every transgender person has gender reassignment surgery. Many can't undergo such a challenging series of operations because their health isn't up to it. Others don't want surgery & some just can't make that irreversible decision. Some transpeople define themselves as neither male nor female.

Importantly, gender dysphoria can still hurt. A two-gendered society that imposes a masculine or feminine gender identity upon us in spite of this is cruel & stupid.

Legal third gender recognition would hopefully lead to transgender-friendly public toilets, third gender tick boxes on forms & a legal obligation for employers/education authorities to make their dress codes/uniforms gender-flexible & non-sexist.

Let's put transgender on the agenda!

Crossposted to tguk and transgender.

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[jenndolari.livejournal.com]

I came out to my parents as trans in 1992. They didn't take it well. Not at all. Dad wasn't too happy with me, and my mother pretty much declared all out war with me. Eventually, in 1996, I needed to get the heck out of the house, because they were making sure I couldn't leave the house, in case I was doing things they didn't approve of.

In 1996, I fled for the farthest reaches of the US, Central Pennsylvania. 1700 miles from Texas where the folks couldn't stop me. I went through my therapy, began my real life test there, got my name changed. In short - I totally transitioned in a place my parents couldn't meddle and stop me.

When I got back in 2000, my parents were not pleased, but I was 26 at the time and living in Austin, so there wasn't too much they could do (one thing Mom did manage at this time was to give me a bottle of laundry detergent that'd been laced with bleach to stain my clothes). I'd started my second job as a woman and was doing pretty well. I'd started hormones, and, frankly, my body took to them like gangbusters.

With the big dotCom bubble bursting, I lost my job and had to move back with the folks. It wasn't pleasant (lots of time being "hidden away" because they didn't want the neighbors or my extended family to see me), and after about six months of this, I left to live with friends. All this time I began distancing myself from my parents.

I saw them less often, but at the same time, I saw them more female when I did. I cut back on the skirts and such, wearing jeans and neutral blouses, but styling my hair female. And there's no way you can hide D cup breasts.

At the end of 2007, I began seeing more of the extended family. During thanksgiving, my extended family saw me for the first time in a long time. My grandmother's funeral as well. My (also M2F) girlfriend came down, and we visited with them several times. My parents adore her, especially my dad.

Yesterday, I went to go visit them. I was in the area, and I had a quick out, just in case. My mom and I talked like we hadn't talked ever. One of the things she's "slipping" into is calling me by my sister's name, or telling me things "Men aren't supposed to know" (she once caught herself telling me about how my sister used warm showers to help her cramps, and then said "Why did I tell you that?")

Dad came home that evening, and wanted some tech support. While we were talking, I mentioned how welcomed my girlfriend felt when she was here. My dad gave me the most soulful look I've seen him give in a long time and said "You know, I'm glad your happy. I want you to know, that we're really proud of you, and want to thank you for coming home and...being conservative. We're happy your happy. And if you're happy, we are happy, too. It's not going to be easy, but I want you to know we'll support anything you do from here on out."

He then gave me a huge hug.

Sometimes you win the battle.

First Day

[velvetlament.livejournal.com]

I just wanted to share the good news.

Yesterday was my first day at work as Crystal. I was super freaking nervous going in but everything went swimmingly. Today was Day 2 and it went even better. Everyone I work with is very cool with everything and weren't too shy about approaching me with questions and such. I'm kind of busy so this post is short, I just wanted to let everyone know that there is a silver lining.

x-posted to mtf

G L B T Find Out What It Means To Me

[andi8.livejournal.com]

So I'm new here and had a blog post I just made on my LJ and wanted to get it around to as many other Queer places as I could so I joined here.  If you like and or agree please feel free to repost elsewhere but please give me the credit I deserve.  Thanks...


Alright boys and girls this one has been a little bit coming but I've been reading too many blogs where it's mentioned and I want to weigh in even if I've got next to no audience...

GLBT four letters those of us in the community hear a lot and probably think about too.  I'm a transsexual part of the T in those four little letters which in some places become many more letter with many more meanings.  The question I want to ask you is are we a letter or a community?  I am no more just a transsexual than I am many of the other things that make up who I am.  As far as I consider the larger community that that one aspect of myself makes me I call myself and those others in that group Queer.  It's one word it means something and it helps to bring us all together into one group not four or more individual groups fighting for a common cause but ONE single group that stands up for one another and fights as one.  A great person once said "United we stand divided we fall."  Right now if you ask me We are not standing united and therefore we fall to the attacks of those who stand united against us.

I know there are people who do not like the word queer because of the way it has been used against them as a slur.  You know there are communities out there who have taken slurs and taken the power back of those words and used them for themselves.  In the 90's the slogan "We're Queer! We're here! Get used to it!" was used rather effectively we need to continue that, we need to take our word back and use it.  If you don't like it then give me another better SINGLE word to use instead.  I hope others will join me in rejecting being a letter and instead being a community.

There's my two cents take it or leave it.