The T-girls are alright
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transFirst of all, I'm going to stress one thing that the audience here should already know but the outside world may not know so strongly and therefore the confidence you may have in it may be shaken: THE T-GIRLS ARE ALRIGHT. Contrary to what sensationalised media outlets report, we don't do most of the crime or take most of the substance abuse. We don't see things, hear voices or think strange thoughts. In fact, a lot of us are the most rationally thinking high achivers. There may occasionally be the trans murderer, but how many more cis murderers are there? I'm pretty sure that our rate is lower.
Okay, so we're all right. That means we don't have to become completely what other people think of as normal to be normal, and we can get on with our lives now. So what do we need? We need as much as the next person - friends, beauty, love, family, freedom etc. How can we get it? The fact that we are different means that we need to sort our own life out ourselves. And each of us is different, and special in our own ways. But believe me, there is a good life lying ahead of you no matter where you go, as long as you don't think the conventional way is the only way to go by things.
Do we have to be 100% like the cis people to be happy? I guess not, since they have individual differences too. They are beautiful in different ways, and have different needs, just like you and me. We are all trying to find a life that suits us, and we are no different in this. Some people need more shaving, some need less. Some people need prostheses, some don't. Some people have the standard parts and structures, some don't (read up on anatomical variation if you don't know what I mean). At the end of the day, they all try to make the most beautiful out of their bodies, and get the most function out of this. How are we outside this norm? How ar wee freaks, or errors, more than any other person. How come we have to all do some standard thing that some might need but some might not need (i.e. The op, medical treatment etc, suitible for some people with some conditions but not for all) to be recognised as us? Nobody should embrace this silly idea, especially not ones in our community who should know better.
Trans people seem to be sadder than the average person in a lot of places. But this ain't have to be. Once we understand that we can equally get on with life, we become just as well adapted as everyone else. If every trans person could think that way, we will be very sane as a group - probably saner than most groups since we have more insight for the need to think rationally. Nobody can really say we're psycho, can they?
Okay, so we're all right. That means we don't have to become completely what other people think of as normal to be normal, and we can get on with our lives now. So what do we need? We need as much as the next person - friends, beauty, love, family, freedom etc. How can we get it? The fact that we are different means that we need to sort our own life out ourselves. And each of us is different, and special in our own ways. But believe me, there is a good life lying ahead of you no matter where you go, as long as you don't think the conventional way is the only way to go by things.
Do we have to be 100% like the cis people to be happy? I guess not, since they have individual differences too. They are beautiful in different ways, and have different needs, just like you and me. We are all trying to find a life that suits us, and we are no different in this. Some people need more shaving, some need less. Some people need prostheses, some don't. Some people have the standard parts and structures, some don't (read up on anatomical variation if you don't know what I mean). At the end of the day, they all try to make the most beautiful out of their bodies, and get the most function out of this. How are we outside this norm? How ar wee freaks, or errors, more than any other person. How come we have to all do some standard thing that some might need but some might not need (i.e. The op, medical treatment etc, suitible for some people with some conditions but not for all) to be recognised as us? Nobody should embrace this silly idea, especially not ones in our community who should know better.
Trans people seem to be sadder than the average person in a lot of places. But this ain't have to be. Once we understand that we can equally get on with life, we become just as well adapted as everyone else. If every trans person could think that way, we will be very sane as a group - probably saner than most groups since we have more insight for the need to think rationally. Nobody can really say we're psycho, can they?