coming out to parents
Jan. 6th, 2007 04:25 pm![[identity profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/openid.png){kind=small}
aidenboi99.livejournal.com posting in ![[community profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/community.png){kind=small}
transhey guys, my name is Aiden.
I have some questions... and a difficult decision to make.
First off, my parents think im just a lesbian with really short hair and loves mens clothes.
and everytime i come home from the barber- esp. the first time which was rather drastic, my dad said i was "slapping God in the face" and i wouldnt be happy until i accepted my womanhood. (it might help knowing my dad is roman catholic and a deacon in the church)
my mom on the other hand, says that i hurt her and that she will loose her job and i will loose all my friends if i keep acting "this way". she is a protestant pastor/priest in the church.
I see a shrink everyother week and we talk about this stuff, and me being trans, etc.
my mom keeps asking me what is wrong and why i cant talk to her. But how can i tell her that i am trans, and have always felt like a boy and always wanted to be one?
She says she will love me no matter what- but it really doesnt seem like it. Whenever we fight she says that maybe i should look for a new place to live. I really dont know if she means it or not.
She won't let me get another haircut, and she gets angry when i refuse to wear girls attire.
She says that no one will hire me for a job because i am a girl that looks like a boy. she says she has asked people she knows whether or not they would hire a girl who looked like a boy. And when i got an application for a store- that does not discriminate - it had "OPTIONAL gender: male or female" . but my mom wouldnt let me leave it blank!
im in a mess.
My mom says that i am the reason our family always fights. and she wont leave me alone about what is wrong!
My shrink says that she probaly already knows... she might, i dont know.
But i dont want her to hate me and i dont want her t be anymore angry than she is... i dont want things to get worse, i want it to get better.
I have friends that would take me in if i get kicked out- which i doubt would happen dispite what my mom says.
will you guys please help! any ideas of what i can do? i cant just not tell my mom, things keep getting worse and someday im afraid im just gonna blurt it out at the wrong moment.
AIM: aidenboi99
email: cowsgomoo@frontiernet.net
I have some questions... and a difficult decision to make.
First off, my parents think im just a lesbian with really short hair and loves mens clothes.
and everytime i come home from the barber- esp. the first time which was rather drastic, my dad said i was "slapping God in the face" and i wouldnt be happy until i accepted my womanhood. (it might help knowing my dad is roman catholic and a deacon in the church)
my mom on the other hand, says that i hurt her and that she will loose her job and i will loose all my friends if i keep acting "this way". she is a protestant pastor/priest in the church.
I see a shrink everyother week and we talk about this stuff, and me being trans, etc.
my mom keeps asking me what is wrong and why i cant talk to her. But how can i tell her that i am trans, and have always felt like a boy and always wanted to be one?
She says she will love me no matter what- but it really doesnt seem like it. Whenever we fight she says that maybe i should look for a new place to live. I really dont know if she means it or not.
She won't let me get another haircut, and she gets angry when i refuse to wear girls attire.
She says that no one will hire me for a job because i am a girl that looks like a boy. she says she has asked people she knows whether or not they would hire a girl who looked like a boy. And when i got an application for a store- that does not discriminate - it had "OPTIONAL gender: male or female" . but my mom wouldnt let me leave it blank!
im in a mess.
My mom says that i am the reason our family always fights. and she wont leave me alone about what is wrong!
My shrink says that she probaly already knows... she might, i dont know.
But i dont want her to hate me and i dont want her t be anymore angry than she is... i dont want things to get worse, i want it to get better.
I have friends that would take me in if i get kicked out- which i doubt would happen dispite what my mom says.
will you guys please help! any ideas of what i can do? i cant just not tell my mom, things keep getting worse and someday im afraid im just gonna blurt it out at the wrong moment.
AIM: aidenboi99
email: cowsgomoo@frontiernet.net