Intro and coming out question.
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transHi. I'm new to the community. My name's Dominic and I'm 16 years old. I'm FtM.
And to accompany my intro, I have a question I was hoping to get help with.
Okay. So, I'm not out to my parents yet.. Actually, I'm not out to many people at all. But, anyway. I don't know if I should come out to them yet or not, yet. I would like them to know eventually. I was thinking I should do it while I'm in college, but that's over a year from now, and it kind of seems cowardly, like I'm taking the easy way out. Plus, I want to cut my hair, bind, and do all the basic stuff soon, and I don't want them to come to conclusions themselves if I just do it . I also want to start therapy soon. I honestly would like to figure out what I want to do before I tell them I'm thinking about it, so I won't have their voices in my head. And therapy would help that process. The problem is, though, how can I get therapy without having to tell them what it's for? It just seems like there isn't really a way around this whole thing to me. I mean, I THINK I could get therapy without telling them exactly why because of my psychiatric past, but what if they won't let me without a solid reason?
What I think I'm going to do is ask for therapy without a direct reason why, and if they say no, I'll tell them why I want it.
I would just rather be as solid with myself as possible so I can tell them without uncertainty. A part of me wants to just start everything in college if they say no to therapy, but I really would rather not wait that long.
My parents are fairly accepting. I watched a few episodes of TransGeneration with my mom, and she didn't seem to be disgusted by any of it or anything like that. Perhaps I'm just worrying too much?
And to accompany my intro, I have a question I was hoping to get help with.
Okay. So, I'm not out to my parents yet.. Actually, I'm not out to many people at all. But, anyway. I don't know if I should come out to them yet or not, yet. I would like them to know eventually. I was thinking I should do it while I'm in college, but that's over a year from now, and it kind of seems cowardly, like I'm taking the easy way out. Plus, I want to cut my hair, bind, and do all the basic stuff soon, and I don't want them to come to conclusions themselves if I just do it . I also want to start therapy soon. I honestly would like to figure out what I want to do before I tell them I'm thinking about it, so I won't have their voices in my head. And therapy would help that process. The problem is, though, how can I get therapy without having to tell them what it's for? It just seems like there isn't really a way around this whole thing to me. I mean, I THINK I could get therapy without telling them exactly why because of my psychiatric past, but what if they won't let me without a solid reason?
What I think I'm going to do is ask for therapy without a direct reason why, and if they say no, I'll tell them why I want it.
I would just rather be as solid with myself as possible so I can tell them without uncertainty. A part of me wants to just start everything in college if they say no to therapy, but I really would rather not wait that long.
My parents are fairly accepting. I watched a few episodes of TransGeneration with my mom, and she didn't seem to be disgusted by any of it or anything like that. Perhaps I'm just worrying too much?