Have other people been told by their family that they were 'selfish' and 'didn't care for them'?

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This was the starting point of a family 'discussion' last week...although the intensity of this accusation gradually deflated the more we communicated. From one of my siblings , a Police detective....it has been a persistent allegation.... Wanting to be oneself is deemed as 'selfish'..... hate posting negative stuff....don't want to bring anyone down...I'm not down..I'm up actually..life is great....love it....a privilege to live.... But struck me tonight...how simply being myself is considered by my insecure family to be selfish.

Hope all who read this are in positive places.