Have other people been told by their family that they were 'selfish' and 'didn't care for them'?

[irish-deutsch.livejournal.com]

This was the starting point of a family 'discussion' last week...although the intensity of this accusation gradually deflated the more we communicated. From one of my siblings , a Police detective....it has been a persistent allegation.... Wanting to be oneself is deemed as 'selfish'..... hate posting negative stuff....don't want to bring anyone down...I'm not down..I'm up actually..life is great....love it....a privilege to live.... But struck me tonight...how simply being myself is considered by my insecure family to be selfish.

Hope all who read this are in positive places.

Gender PDocs in Vancouver BC?

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I FINALLY, after 4 weeks of trying to get the right contact info, got in touch with a psychiatrist in  Vancouver who is supposed to have some experience in sorting gender issues from other childhood and trauma issues. Dr. Oberdeick was recommended to me by the Transhealth unit of Coastal Health. The other person recommended to me, Melady Preece, who sounds much better suited for me, is a pyschologist and not a psychiatrist, and isn't covered by BC Medical.

My GP was quick to get the referral off, in early Dec, but when I finally was able to reach the PDocs office I was told by a grumpy sounding assistant that they had received no referral. So my GP faxed it back and FINALLY! I have an appointment....but not until end of Feb.

This whole thing was way more difficult than it should have been, full of SNAFU's, so I'm wondering if the universe is warning me that maybe this isn't the therapist for me.

Has anyone else had experience with gender specialists (esp psychiatrists) in the Vancouver area that can recommend someone, in case this doesn't work out for me? You can message me privately or post here if you can help. Thanks.

x-posted to MTF

St Johns Wort and HRT

[spittingkittens.livejournal.com]

Hey,

I'm thinking of trying out St Johns Wort in order to help me through a difficult patch coming up. However, I've been reading that St Johns Wort can actually interact with HRT and reduce it's efficiency. I'm not so worried about physical changes, but I am concerned about having brainfarts. So, does anybody here have any personal experience of taking the remedy while on HRT and, if so, did it help, do nothing, or make you feel worse?

Cheers in advance xx

hi I'm new

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hi my name is Cullen. But you are the only people who know me as Cullen because the world still sees a female when they look at me. This is because I am small and generally girly looking I guess. Also I don't do much to try and dispell others' notions by either fashion, behaviors, etc. I even carry a purse sometimes to try and force myself to be more my physical gender because when i look at myself in the mirror I don't see how I could ever make the world take this little 5' girl seriously as a man.

I have also compounded the problem for myself by joining the army a few months ago so. Reserve but still when I drill I must maintain a female appearance.

I feel very antisocial lately. I hate going out in public in a body that is so uncomfortable to me. It is the worst feeling. A lot
of times I can't even bring myself to go to the store. I feel suicidal sometimes because it seems easier a lot of times than dealing with this.

I also sort of want to try and get moving on this before it is too late, but am afraid no
one will take me seriously. I am so sad right now. Fortunately I am at the doctor right now because I couldn't bring myself to go to drill this morning. Maybe I should bring it up but I
am scared.

Anyway, a very selfpity filled first post. Sorry if you read this far.

Different

[laura-seabrook.livejournal.com]

You'll have to listen to the lyrics of this one (which comes from the 1970 H.R. Puffnstuff film)...

( The Lyrics, anyway )

...but I think there's a lesson for any Trans folk in this.

Oh, and I love the fact that the witches are routed by "Good Fairies"!

(no subject)

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Hi everyone!
I'm new to this community. I have a weird question of sorts and i've never really gotten to talk about this with anyone else that I think would understand, so maybe someone can help me out.
I'm a female who has identified as a lesbian until the recent months , and now i've noticed that i'm very attracted to a transgendered man as a women.
Here's where my problem is... I really don't know where I would met someone of this gender transformation to be romantically involved with. You see I live in Mississippi whch isn't the most open state in the us. I'm a very cultured and accepting woman and would love nothing more than to meet a transgendered man and or women and fall in love with them. So where could I go 'online' speaking and/ or in real life to meet someone and become friends and maybe more???
I hope i don't sound to naive. I've never actually let these thoughts out of my brain so they may seem a little bit jumbled since i've never had the courage to actually admit that i'm extremely attracted to people who are transgendered. I admire them so for their bravery to follow their hearts!

I myself am trying to make a new start and stay true to my heart.

DreadCircus - Gender Optimized 2.0

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