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[zor-ak.livejournal.com]

i hear alot of stories in these communities about people have problems with the social construction of gender. i have also had an experience like this, but i am fortunate, even in the middle of nowhere (8 miles from idaho) to actually have a good support network in the str8 community. it amazes me sometimes. here is my story:

i work the front desk for conferences. ten times during the summer we have orientation for new students. parents bring their students to come and tour the campus, register for classes and learn about the university. i hand out keys to rooms. it is my laid back summer job (this is my 7th summer, did it when i was an undergrad). at the end of each session, parents and students fill out evals, one for the programming, one for the rooms. the parents turn theirs into the desk.

this last session, one of these particular evals was targeted to me. now keep in mind, the parents love me. i inherited this gene from my father with allows me to converse with complete strangers. i have a knack for working with the parents. but, we get this eval (i did not see the eval) that says, brace yourself, it is inappropriate for a woman to have no hair and i should not be allowed to work here (i have a shaved head, as of recently, but i do not bind). this parent wrote it on two seperate evals (at this point i only know of the one); one eval is for housing, one for programming (which i have nothing to do with). first thing i thought was, you don't know anything about me or why i have no hair. then i thought, what a bitch. and i was angry. at this point, i had heard about the hotel eval but we could not find it.

later, i took some stuff back to the orientation office and started to ask if they had heard about this. so i said, "didjoo..." they responded, "we heard." i said "about the eval?" now, in most cases i might be required to change my appearance, or get fired, but the office staff talked about how appalled they were, at which point i learned of the second eval. they told me what it said and all were really upset about it. they said i should not have to wear a hat or cover it up. it made me feel good inside to see that i had support in whatever i did.

now you see why i work a desk job every summer. good times. i am trying not to be self conscience though.

tranz documentaries...

[technodiesel.livejournal.com]

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bathroom question

[madcaptenor.livejournal.com]

Do the "Men" and "Women" signs on bathroom doors have any legal status? In other words, is it illegal for a man (by whatever definition the law feels like using) to use a "women's bathroom" or vice versa? Or are those signs just put there out of some sense of courtesy?

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[venusarani.livejournal.com]

Ok, this will probably be pretty long. I’m not someone who can say I spent my entire life feeling like I was the wrong gender. I really didn’t start feeling that way until my early 20’s (I’m now 25), when I met my current wife who was open to cross dressing and the like. And now I’ve grown to where I feel completely out of place. At work, all but one of the people I consider to be close friends are female, and I just fall into way more feminine interests and stereotypes than male ones. And when I look back on my childhood, I see a similar pattern even back then.

My original reasons for not even considering transitioning were simple, my wife didn’t support it. While she allowed (and supported) dressing, she wasn’t comfortable with the idea of me going full time. But as of a few months ago, she’s changed her mind on that and would support me. Which has left me even more confused that I would have expected.

I’m personally not too concerned with how my family would react…my dad would probably be upset at first, but would get over it…I’m not particularly close to my mom anyway, so that’s no sweat either way. And being an only child, I don’t have siblings to deal with.

Her family is another matter, however. She’s really close with her parents, and neither of them are overly open minded. I really wouldn’t like to be responsible for any big split with them, and they like me.

My future career is another point of contention. My career goal is to teach/do research within a university. I’ve been accepted to the doctoral program at one of the top schools, and most well respected, for my discipline in the nation. I was thinking that transitioning during my studies there would be ideal, so I would establish myself within the academic circles with a new identity. But whether that would even work is questionable. And I wonder what sort of problems I could have looking for a position afterwards. From what I’ve read, universities seem to be pretty liberal, open minded employers, though my field isn’t always known for that. Living in stealth would be preferred, but considering my height (around 6’3”), that might not work either. And I may make an ugly woman and not only feel out of place, but look that way as well.

My wife is the only one in my life who really knows about this…I’m really too mistrusting to really talk to any of my friends about it, so I basically keep it all bottled up. Any advice is more than welcome!