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[brandonriley.livejournal.com]

Hi there everyone!

I have an odd question but probably quite common. Im having some issues with a girl I've been "messing" around with. She has always identified herself as straight. She has intense feelings for me but as soon as we get to the bedroom she cant get past the fact that im a transguy.
I could really use some suggestions, advice...etc. Maybe if some of the guys out there who have dealt with this can help out. basically just how to help her out with dealing with it and what not.
hope thats enough information for you all to help me out..

Brandon

x-posted everywhere

Kansas City Area

[ottermama.livejournal.com]

Heya all...

I've been having a really difficult time getting responses from local support groups for intersexed/LGBT groups in the Kansas City, Kansas area, and was wondering if anyone in here is familiar at all with the area and might have some tips? I'm a rather housebound soul given that I don't have a car and tend to be rather shy despite trying to reach out as I am, and as vocal as I tend to seem online. As I'm growing in my personal journey, I realize the need for more community with people who understand, and while LJ is great, it's no substitute for one on one community. Any help in this area would be great. ^^

Thanks!

Transisition vs SOC?

[zoelouise1126.livejournal.com]

Ok.. the ICON picture attached to this post
is ME.. taken at a Mardi Gras Ball on Jan 30th. 2005..

Ok.. when I look at it...
I see a somewhat fat middle aged old woman
in a COSTUME...
( I acutally think I kinda look like my Great AUnt Ursula :-) )

sure it IS a costume...

The pic is not retouched in any way...

but it is still a COSTUME...

Ok.. I have worn dresses and gone out to resturaunts..
I have worn skirts to parties and to Mardi Gras Balls..

But that is NOT the ME... that I feel that I am..


Heck.. most GG women that I know.. my age almost NEVER
wear clothes like that..
I cant even remember the last time I have seen M in a dress..

The women I work with dress just like I do..
Jeans and shirts..
Hell my shirts are much more FEMME than theirs most days.
Today I have on a lovely pink sweater. :-)


I see my therapist next week... I want to talk to her about this...

For me, I have "TRANSISTIONED" from beeing the MAN.. that I
used to pretend to be..
into being the ME>> that I feel comfortable with...

most days I wear pants and a shirt...
my "real" hair is much longer than the wig in that icon picture..

I go around wearing dangling earrings and much jewlery EVERY DAY...

Like I said.. I have TRANSITIONED into the person that I
see myself as...

Ok.. I have worn evening gowns to events that need evening gowns..
I have worn "costumes" to events that need costumes..

But what I am thinking about now.. is the HBSOC..
and the requirement that one "live in role" for one
year....
Hey.. I dress more GIRLY than most GIRLS....
I am "OUT" to most of the people that I deal with
on a day to day basis....
What next.....
To be truely considered "TRANS" do I have to endure
a year of dressing in dresses and skirts???
when virtually NONE of the genetic girls that I know do?

just a thought....

Zoe..

Looking in the mirror...

[zoelouise1126.livejournal.com]

Since I posted that last post...

I want some feedback....

Most of you who read "transgendered"
have never seen a picture of me before...

when I look at that ICON.. I see a
fat man in a dress...

but my view is tainted by 40 years of
looking at myself in a mirror...


I am curious...
what YOU see when you first glance at my ICON?
total strnger.. seeing a new person for the
first time?
Not that I am "trying to pass" in that picture....
but just your first impresstion....

fat man in a dress?
fat middle adged woman in a celtic wench costume?
GEE.. I am confused?
Sexy supper model ? :-)

ok.. choise number 3 is wishful thinking :-)

be honest..
be brutal if you want...
I would welcome the feedback..


Just curious...
Zoe...

LGB(T?)

[my-mundane-life.livejournal.com]

Hi everyone,

(apologies for cross-posting)

I'm currently working on a PhD examining transpeople's intimate partnerships and because of this I have been asked to speak at UCC (University College, Cork in Ireland) LGB about why they should add the 'T' to their group. There has been a fair amount of opposition to this move it seems, with people saying that if transpeople identify as lesbian, gay or bi then they are welcome under the LGB banner anyway and there is no need to add them to the group's name. I'm aware that there are issues around LGB groups being started to support people in terms of their sexualities and trans being about gender, but also that transpeople really need support, particularly somewhere like Ireland where there isn't much knowledge and acceptance. Transpeople and non-straight people have similar issues around coming out and I just feel that transpeople really need somewhere to go where they can feel supported and accepted.

I want to make sure that I include as many useful points as possible re. inclusion of transpeople in LGB(T) societies so I was wondering if anyone here could tell me what they think about the issue of adding the 'T' to LGB. Have you had similar debates and come across any useful arguments? Has your university/other LGB group had to deal with disagreements around this?

My partner is trans and spoke at the LGB standing conference in Cork a few years ago, managing to convince them to add the 'T' to the national group. I just hope I can do the same in Cork! I'll need comments by 16th Feb as I head to Cork on 17th.

Also, if anyone will be in Cork on 18th Feb come along to the meeting! I think it'll be starting around 2.30.

Look in the mirror of your soul and tell me what you see?

[fullcontactmuse.livejournal.com]

(cross posted to my journal and transgender)

A recent conversation with a friend of mine, whom I only found recently out recently has an LJ account, has gotten me to thinking about how I see myself and why I see myself that way. My friend can choose to out herself or not.

“I am what I am what I am.”

When I think about who I am, I think of myself in two halves, my masculine side and my feminine, two sides of the same coin, complimenting each other. Perhaps it is because of my pagan background and my belief that dualities are intrinsic to everything, light and shadow, hot and cold, male and female. My friend prefers to think of herself as a balanced individual, she just is. Her belief structure tends to lean more towards the Zen Buddhist way of thinking.

The reason I bring the philosophical aspect, and granted I don’t know much, if anything, about Zen Buddhism, is to spur thoughts about how we view the world causes us to view our selves.

I am Rory. I am Amber.
I am her and I am him.
I am greater than the sum of my parts.