advice needed.

[stealthypenguin.livejournal.com]

Let me apologize ahead of time if I use a politically incorrect phrase, word, line, etc. I'm extremely new to this all. my girlfriend that i have known for 5 years now is starting to think that she might be a TG. I am very supportive of this but I have a feeling I might be doing something wrong. While she is exploring the subject and herself more in depth I keep telling her that maybe if she joined more of the group activities she enjoyed, built some more muscle mass, filled out the body she has the way she liked...etc... she might feel more comfortable with who she is. So in other words, im basically telling her that she might not be a tg...that maybe she should explore the other options before going to that extreme- and by extreme, I dont mean it as a bad thing in any way. For those of you that i havent lost yet in my rambling my question is this... How can I support her better as she begins to explore and make this transition? I know its a long road and any advice is always welcome and very much needed. Thanks for your time!

<3 Jamie

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[tribal-tiger.livejournal.com]

i've found tons and tons of stuff about binding. i can't get a real binder, so i use tight strong sports bras, sometimes layered. the problem is, when i do that, i constantly have to adjust or i end up with this huge uniboob, which is kinda anti the point.

so i was thinking about taping my breasts down. i don't want to tape myself all around or anything, just tape them so they stay to the sides and not all squished in the middle.

i can't find anything about anyone doing that, so i have no idea if it'd work or not. i assume medical or sports tape would be easier on the skin, but i can't find anything, so i dont' really know. it's akward adjusting, and it stretches out my bras to adjust things constantly... and i really can't think of another way to keep them where i need them to be.

help, advice, suggestions?

Lilly Is Amused!

[perttu-kitty.livejournal.com]

The TV show The View wants a transgender president so get those campaigns up and running people!

Love,
Lilly A. Noodle, Queen Of The Waffle

UPSET

[gilmour123.livejournal.com]

why are people so horrible to me?  I am really upset as people shout out comments to me in the street.  I am not a nasty person and a pacifist so why am I being treated in this way.

Don't tell me to move house as its the same everywhere I go.

Unhappy, and may commit suicide over the holidays.


RIKKI GILMOUR

if i didn't know better, I'd think they were making it difficult on purpose.

[the4thcircle.livejournal.com]

Oh wait... I don't know better.

I can't even express in words how angry I am right now. There are no words pictures or sounds for how much blind rage has occupied my mind, even when concentrating on other things.

So, after months and months, years in fact, now that I think about it, of my parents telling me not to transition in my home town because they don't want anyone else in the family to know, I move away to a whole different city to ditch my old identity.

I explain this to them, I invite them over here and put up with their constant muddled pronouns and usage of my old name in public. I did it because seeing family problems upsets my brother, and him and Becca are probably the only people in the world I actually have the time and effort to care about right now.

I let my parents see that everything I own has my old name removed, I even shared an anecdote of how I was going to get rid of a signed hardback first edition book because I'd had it signed by the author in my old name. I made it as clear as possible that my life here is not to be tarnished by the past.


And then they gave my address to every single family member, neglecting to tell them anything about my name.

So now I have a bunch of post coming here in my old name. When I asked them why their reply was "They asked for your address, what were we supposed to do?"

It's not fucking rocket science, is it?

I've been told I can go home for Christmas IF I explain things to my grandmother, and I'm under orders to do it slowly and tactfully and gently, which is great because Christmas is roughly a week away.

I want to go home for Chris' sake but when it all comes down to it, I don't want to be pushed and if I go home, I'll be pushed and I will push the fuck back, and that'll be more upsetting for everyone involved.

I'm starting to understand why some people just disappear when they transition and cut off from old relatives, leaving no contact addresses. The most upsetting thing in the world is making a new start only to have people try to pull you back and undo your hard work.

I moved 133 miles to get away from my old identity and they've gone and sent it to me for Christmas.

So now I have about 8 chunks of family to write to, with the harshest coming out letters ever.

After years of "Don't let anyone find out, when you move away we still have to live here" they have totally ignored the fact that I in fact have to live here. They insisted no one find out when I was in their house and now that I'm in my own house they've found the one way to really SERIOUSLY piss me off.

And now they're saying to break it gently.

Fuck that.

I am telling it how it is, including WHY I haven't told them yet AND how angry I am that it happened this way. And I frankly no longer care what kind of phone calls my parents get from confused relatives.

Basically, I've pretty much decided I'm not going home for Christmas.

Whose in Cambridge for Christmas? I'm going to be lonely if no one invites me to a party...