Back-and-forth

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I have a friend who is (?) FTM. I met her as a guy last year but lost touch with her. I recently started talking to her again and found out that she had gone back to living as a girl this past year but told me that she was planning to start transition again -- that was last weekend. This past week she's been a guy to me and then I ended up getting in a fight with her ex over names and pronouns -- we both though each other was being disrespectful (I blamed her for her not transitioning). Well, I guess it turns out that she does want to be called by her given name and gender.

So, do you know anybody who has detransitioned and lived happily? I'd say most of the trans people I know stopped transitioning for a while (I did for three years) before resuming it again because it was just too hard to live without transitioning. But do you know anybody who is not currently in transition because they decided they weren't trans and seems happy and healthy?

I'm trying to respect my friend for whatever identity she chooses but I'm worried she's unhappy. What should I do?