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transSo I’m just about ready to go full-time and have outed myself to almost all the people that I plan on doing so to –I still have a few people left to talk to about my transition. With the exception of a few family members who are not dealing with my transition well, I’ve actually been getting pretty good responses from everyone else I’m telling.
My problem comes from the issue of people I am not going to out myself to. Due to the nature of my work, and my life in general, I had a pretty big “social circle” and a pretty recognizable face too. Now I’m having FFS done in a little less than two months (the whole works and then a little extra) and while I understand that it’s not going to necessarily make me unrecognizable it’s sure as hell going to help. But what do I have my friends that know what’s going on with me, tell those people who are still asking about "boy-name" here and there?
Come to think of it what do I do about the next door neighbors? Not that I really care what they think, but they are close with my childhood friend/downstairs neighbor and his wife. So if they don’t recognize me what do I have them tell them? One friend of mine who is FtM claims to be his own brother. Another friend is her former selve's sister; she’s MtF. Could I lie and say I’m (boy name’s) cousin and just taking care of “his” place while he’s away?
For those who are already full-time what did you do with this situation? For those who are not out yet; what do you plan on doing? Please keep in mind that while I’m not going full on super duty deep stealth, I’m also not planning on being “out and proud”. I do have to keep some level of stealth professionally (I’m pretty well known in my field and am planning on starting all over again career wise).
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My problem comes from the issue of people I am not going to out myself to. Due to the nature of my work, and my life in general, I had a pretty big “social circle” and a pretty recognizable face too. Now I’m having FFS done in a little less than two months (the whole works and then a little extra) and while I understand that it’s not going to necessarily make me unrecognizable it’s sure as hell going to help. But what do I have my friends that know what’s going on with me, tell those people who are still asking about "boy-name" here and there?
Come to think of it what do I do about the next door neighbors? Not that I really care what they think, but they are close with my childhood friend/downstairs neighbor and his wife. So if they don’t recognize me what do I have them tell them? One friend of mine who is FtM claims to be his own brother. Another friend is her former selve's sister; she’s MtF. Could I lie and say I’m (boy name’s) cousin and just taking care of “his” place while he’s away?
For those who are already full-time what did you do with this situation? For those who are not out yet; what do you plan on doing? Please keep in mind that while I’m not going full on super duty deep stealth, I’m also not planning on being “out and proud”. I do have to keep some level of stealth professionally (I’m pretty well known in my field and am planning on starting all over again career wise).
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