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kasumi-astra.livejournal.com

Four years ago, when I was a student, I was very liberal with my identity on the web. I was transitioning and talking about being trans, both in trans and non-trans communities, helped life make sense.

Eighteen months ago, I was made redundant. I was extremely lucky to be able to walk straight into another job at the time - I was 25 at the time and I live apart from family with a long-term partner, a full-time student, who is dependent on my income. It could have been a difficult situation, and I was very happy and grateful to be able to start a great new job.

One lunchtime on my first week in the job, I discuss blogging with my superior and a few of my colleagues. I explained that I have two blogs, one is for me to write about topics relating to my profession, the other is a personal blog that I choose to keep "out of the way" - in my own words. The latter is in reference to my Livejournal account.

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ellyrouge.livejournal.com

Okay, that might seem a weird issue, but it really buggers me at this time.

Here's my situation: ( details )I don't want to be completely stealth but I don't want people to out me either, and I have the impression that it's just some impossible thing to ask, and it's depressing me because I sometimes have the impression that there are things that will require me to cut myself off of my current friends and my current life if I want to experience them.

I don't know if other people have gone through similar stuff, but I would love to have some advice because I really feel torn apart and don't know what to thing anymore.

mindtheft.livejournal.com

Background info:
Three weeks ago I started work at a women's only, feminist organization that provides housing to cis and trans homeless women. Currently I am the only trans female full time staff member. This org. is super trans positive, backed by a really awesome union so, in terms of my rights as a worker, there's no issue whatsoever.

The issue:
For the first couple weeks, I was being gendered properly almost 100% of the time and I had not outed myself as trans. For all intents and purposes, I was stealth and for some reason this made me feel super anxious. I went to work every night with knots in my stomach, I could barely eat while at work, I was drinking *WAY* more coffee than I normally do, etc.

Finally, late last week I came out to a couple of my co-workers and a couple of my clients and ever since I've been feeling super calm.

The thing is I can't seem to figure it out. Is it Stealth shame? Trans pride? Feeling like I'm hiding something?

All I know is that I felt super paranoid, like someone was going to call my bluff (internalized transphobia?).

I dunno, have people felt this way before as well?

It's like when everything is going so well, you're just waiting for the bad to come, the calm before the storm or something

I appreciate your input!

xoxo

elegancewaves.livejournal.com

So, I have an interesting question as both a transgendered person and someone working in the travel and tourism industry. I'm sure most people heard about the attempted bombing of that flight from Amsterdam to Detroit on Christmas Day, and with that, most major airports are going to be implimenting those full body scanners. I know my airport will, because Vancouver is one of the three biggest airports in Canada. Now, there are alternatives to this full body scan which no doubt include being man-handled at the airport, so are any trans-folks more concerned about travelling because of this? Are you more or less petrified because of stealth status, does not being stealth make you less afraid of it?

mrowrbot.livejournal.com

Hello,

I am a nursing student and some of the hospitals where we do our practicum require us to undergo a criminal background check before we can work there. I understand that it is common practice for hospitals to do background checks on any new hires as well. On the form we have to fill out, it asks for any previous names we may have used. I didn't put my old name down and I'm hoping it won't come up when they run the check. Will they be able to find out that I am TS through my name or through any other way? I don't think they would kick me out of school for this, but I'm just very scared because I don't want anyone to know. I'm also worried that I might have trouble getting a job after graduation if employers could really find out this easily. And even if I do get a job, I know I'd be paranoid all the time wondering whether my supervisor knows about me or not. I'm hoping someone here can tell me something that will calm my nerves. But if this is really going to come back to haunt me later on in life, I'd prefer to know as soon as possible so I can get out of this field and into something safer before I invest any more time into it.

belleza-mia.livejournal.com

I'm currently in college and my roommate was FTM, but he just moved out. For next semester I'm trying to find someone else trans-friendly to move in or else I'll move closer to my school and live with people who dont know. In other words, I'd be stealth.

Has anyone ever done this before? I feel like it would be really stressful because I'm non-op and I have some body/facial hair which I shave, but it does continue to grow. I would not share a bedroom, I would only share a bathroom.

Any experiences with this? How dangerous is it if I only live with womyn? Ay, its too much to worry about! It's times like these that make me wish even more that I werent trans.

*EDIT* Just to clarify, I live as a womon and everyone at school sees me that way.

belleza-mia.livejournal.com

I recently started college in girl mode. I've transitioned through name change and my driver's license has good info on it. I'm also taking hormones but I wear fake titties.

I've been working on my voice a little and I guess it's worked out because at school, none of my classmates know I'm trans. I know I don't always dress like a GG, but I guess due to my age and genetics, I "pass". And I don't live on campus, so nudity in showers/dorms isn't an issue luckily.

So being perceived this way is REALLY bizarre. Because all through high school I was with people who knew the shit out of me, so I could never just rest easy in my skin and be respected for my identity/gender expression (not that people at my college wouldn't hate the shit out of me if they knew my real trans identity). So now that it's actually happening, I'm weirded out! Ahh!

I guess I'm asking for people in similar situations to tell their stories and how they've felt. It's just too weird for words, but luckily not really in a bad way. Thoughts? Note that this is a late-night post, so please pardon me if the post seems incoherent.

shelleybear.livejournal.com

A Logos documentary on the making of the trans version of "The Vagina Monologues".
There were an awful lot of transwoman who came out of deep stealth to participate in it, and many of them had the same thing to say:
Stealth is, at best, a hollow victory.

Shelley

Current Mood: thoughtful

mae-mdwst.livejournal.com

So I’m just about ready to go full-time and have outed myself to almost all the people that I plan on doing so to –I still have a few people left to talk to about my transition. With the exception of a few family members who are not dealing with my transition well, I’ve actually been getting pretty good responses from everyone else I’m telling.

My problem comes from the issue of people I am not going to out myself to. Due to the nature of my work, and my life in general, I had a pretty big “social circle” and a pretty recognizable face too. Now I’m having FFS done in a little less than two months (the whole works and then a little extra) and while I understand that it’s not going to necessarily make me unrecognizable it’s sure as hell going to help. But what do I have my friends that know what’s going on with me, tell those people who are still asking about "boy-name" here and there?

Come to think of it what do I do about the next door neighbors? Not that I really care what they think, but they are close with my childhood friend/downstairs neighbor and his wife. So if they don’t recognize me what do I have them tell them? One friend of mine who is FtM claims to be his own brother. Another friend is her former selve's sister; she’s MtF. Could I lie and say I’m (boy name’s) cousin and just taking care of “his” place while he’s away?

For those who are already full-time what did you do with this situation? For those who are not out yet; what do you plan on doing? Please keep in mind that while I’m not going full on super duty deep stealth, I’m also not planning on being “out and proud”. I do have to keep some level of stealth professionally (I’m pretty well known in my field and am planning on starting all over again career wise).

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Transgender Community

On Blogging, Identity on the Web and Stealth

Being pretty out but not wanting to be seenas trans, or something like that

Stealth Anxiety

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Living stealth in college

Being Perceived as a Genetic Female (GG) in Public

Watched "Beautiful Daughters"

What to do about people you are not outing yourself to but will still see after going full time.

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