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I've been doing a lot of introspection lately and had another session with my therapist where I discussed the current situation.  I made a post before that briefly mentioned this.  I do not meet the textbook definition of gender dysphoria, because I do not strongly identify with the stereotypical gender roles of the opposite gender.  I fall somewhere near the middle.  My desire is to come across as androgynous, but leaning towards male and using male pronouns.  The male equivalent of a tomboy, I guess, whatever you would call it.

I am having a lot of trouble explaining this to people and very few people seem to get it, and I'm not sure how I am going to achieve what I am aiming for.  Several people seem to think that, as biologically female, I cannot pull off a look like this, this, or this.  None of these examples look very masculine at all, so I'm a bit puzzled, though this may have to do with people not understanding what I'm aiming for.  I'm not sure.

I've been thinking over the possibility of surgery only without hormones, or with only a very low dose, because I do not want to risk a personality change, drastic appearance change, or increased sex drive.  My mannerisms, body language, etc. are just naturally not feminine at all as it is, and it's always been that way.  The main indicator that gives me away (when binding and wearing a baggy shirt, at least) is my voice, and I don't know if it's possible to train my voice to be convincing enough without hormones or not.

Is anyone knowledgeable enough to know how possible my goal is, and how difficult/expensive this would be if it is?

Sorry for all the questions.