[identity profile] rebeccasf.livejournal.com
I recently wanted to make an android app so I started doing searches for different questions I had regarding this. Several of those searches ended at Quora.com. There seems to be a pretty good community of developers there and since I couldn't even read the entire replies without joining, I joined. Within 24 hours I received an email saying I would be unable to make any posts because I hadn't used my "real full name." I'm guessing they are conflating my "real name" to my "legal name."

Anyway, I don't really want to use my "legal name" for obvious reasons. I changed my name on Quora to match my fb name in the hopes that a quick search will turn up the fact that I've used that name for a few years now and that is who I am. But it hasn't been long enough yet for a reply.

I'm just wondering if any others have had any interactions with this company and their moronic "policy."

bex cat-herder
[identity profile] identityfail.livejournal.com
Hi everyone,

So I'm (possibly) ftm and toying with going by a male name and pronouns at college in the fall. Of course, choosing a name is one of the stumbling blocks I've come across. In general when introducing myself as male, I go by Simon, but sometimes it feels kind of incongruous, because while I'm an American / native-English-speaker, my parents are from India and my birthname is an Indian one, originally Sanskrit. Plus I guess I "look" Indian whatever that means. I'm defo not white, etc.

Do any of you have this second-generation experience, or whatever? I rarely identify as Indian -- it's just an occasional vague sense of heritage more than anything, and a rationalizing of my parents' uptightness -- but I keep wavering on whether or not I should pick an Indian boy name. It's just one of those things that's sort of a part of me but sort of not, you know?

Just lookin' around for other people's experiences and so on. Obviously only I can decide for myself...just wondering how others dealt with this. Did you end up choosing a name that matched your heritage/ethnicity or your current nationality/language? How did you come to that decision?

Thanks!

S
[identity profile] espreite.livejournal.com
Okay, sorry in advance, this is a bit of a despairy rant, but I'm just feeling really frustrated.

I just started a Spanish-language course last week, and this semester I've been using my preferred name with all my teachers. My maestra was really awesome, as I introduced myself as Kai and she figured out my legal name without mentioning it to me and kept using Kai. Until today, when she realized that I have no Spanish name. This is apparently an urgent problem, so she grabbed the list of Spanish names and immediately started reading off possibilities on the girl's list.

At one point she said, "See, you get to pick the name you've always dreamed of having!" while inside I'm kind of screaming, "But I only just got to START using the name I've always dreamed of having!" :( Then she suggested, "Well, your real name is [girlname], so how about we use [Spanish version of girlname] for now?" And then I started panicking and just shouted "No!" *facepalm*

This also comes on the heels of having to participate in an sociology class experiment where we were told to interact with people "of the opposite sex first," and upon asking what that meant, was told that meant I should go talk to boys first. Incidentally that led to me pretty much coming out to the teacher, because when the kid with a girl's legal name wearing boy's clothes and short hair says "There are people who don't identify as a man or woman..." it's pretty obvious who they're talking about. Amusingly this led to the GSA advisor from the same department AND that teacher to check in on me repeatedly for the next two days, thinking I'd been offended, but at least she was willing to listen and adjust future activities.

So I need to come up with some sort of androgynous Spanish name in the next day. At the moment she's just calling me "La Sin Nombre," which would actually be sort of okay or even cool except for the "la" at the beginning. So....yeah. Grr.
[identity profile] pink-miniskirt.livejournal.com
hello all, i know i don't post here much but i have been wondering something and would like some help from you on it, i was thinking about names, specifically our names as transfolk, what they are and how we picked them, and if i get enough replies to this i'd even like to compare that to the list of most popular names for the last few years. i ask this for two reasons, first beacause of idle curiosity about the subject and second a genuine interest in how we choose our names, so many people wish they could change their names and here we are given that chance and so it intersts me to see how we pick our new names, also this could turn out to be a valuable reasource for people jsut starting or just begining to think of a name, so please comment, everyone is welcome, and i'll start us off with my own story of how i chose my name.

i was born Alvin Jack Valentine Moen Turpin, a mouthful and another long story that shall be saved for elsewhere, and i never really liked my name too much, i always thought that when i said it it got mashed in my mouth a bit, and when i started exploring my gender in high school i started thinking about different names, i wasn't really seriously considering anything at the time but playing with different names, and one day i had written on my hand "Hi, i'm Mary" thinking that i kind of liked the name and that it would go on my list of definite possibilities when i got to that point, a friend of mine saw it, and not really knowing the full meaning of it decided that it was not my name, and she began thinking of a name for me and a little later decided that i should be called Summer, which i laughed at a little at first because i tended to take on a kind of hard personality and wear solid black constantly so i thought it was a funny choice, she washed Mary off of my hand and wrote Summer in it's place, later that day other friends of mine saw it and thought it fit me quite well and the more they said it the more i realized i loved it, looking back i realize that a big part of the reason for that was that i had been putting on this 'tough' show for people, or trying to, and if i was going to start a new chapter there was no point in having the part of me i was trying to be rid of cloud that, Summer was the name of the little girl inside me who'd been trying to get out, who needed to be protected, and loved. and so, i am Summer

EDIT: i forgot to mention, the reason i put down my birth name is that i have decided to keep the middle name Valentine, it's always been the only part of my name that i really liked and depending on how things go when i come out to family i might consider making it my last name instead of my middle
[identity profile] xeddieizzardx.livejournal.com
Hey! FTM here!
My friend [who's MTF] has a dilemma concerning names.
She has told our [school] counsellor that she would like to be called Jess.
Well...since then, her mind has changed and feels it doesn't really fit, and is hesitating continuing to choose a name afraid she will be stuck with the wrong name all her life.

Any tips/methods I can give her in choosing the right name?

Should she take time listing names that she think will fit and research them?

-Eddie-

    
[identity profile] nekoko.livejournal.com
I'll bet y'all were just dying to read another life story, huh? )


Well, now that that's out of the way, I have a couple of questions. I'm curious about some things.


If you picked a new name, how did you decide? I picked out Allen (from Kora, "back then", Greek for maiden or girl, which is possibly the most ironic thing I've ever heard in my life) because it sounds normal -- I guess I'm shooting for being a normal boy about something. I like the letters in it, and I like the way it sounds. Basically, I just think it's a nice name.


What do you call yourself? I opt for boything (because I like the way that sounds, and it's also what I call "this whole mess" when I'm talking to my friends or my girlfriend: the boy thing) or trannyfag (because being able to smile at things makes me feel better, plus it pretty much sums me up -- except for my girlfriend, but she's the only exception, and we all know sexuality can be a tricky thing anyway). I'm curious what people use for themselves.


And here's one I'll bet a billion people have asked: Are restrooms really that different? I'm tempted to assume that it depends on where you're at, but...! I always think about asking biological guys, but the answer might be skewed by the fact that they have (probably) never been in a girls' restroom. So I figure that anybody that's seen both sides will have a better idea.


In any case: this community seems friendly and, at the very least, interesting. I'm glad there are people I can relate to -- it makes me feel a lot less alone for all of this.

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